For many, many years I have wondered why there are people on this planet who are aware and people who are not aware. More specifically, I have thought about why there are people who are abusive and people who are not.
Now, clearly just about everyone acts in ways that are destructive from time to time, but there is a big difference between doing this and being an abusive person. This relates to someone who routinely abuses their children or their spouse, for instance. The Reason Through having this question, I have done a lot of research and asked a number of people what their thoughts were, along with reflecting on this question myself. I have thought for a long time that pain can stop someone from being able to be aware. Additionally, there is what might have happened to someone’s brain that stops them from being able to reflect on their own behaviour. I have even thought that maybe some people are just born aware, while others are not. An Opportunity The other day I was speaking to Ben Ralston, who is therapist, healer, advanced Sivananda Yoga teacher, and writer, and I asked him about why this way. He said that not everyone is the same, even though this is something that is often believed. Hearing this made me think about how common it is to hear that everyone is equal in today’s world. This can then create the impression that everyone is the same and it can then be hard to understand why people behave differently and have different levels of success, amongst other things. The Last Part After this he said that even though not everyone is the same, it didn’t matter in the grand scheme of things. He said that this is because there have probably been times when the people who are aware now, were not aware in the past and vice versa. I thought that this was a very balanced way of looking at it, and that it was far better to have this outlook than for someone to get too caught up in their present experience. If they were fairly aware and this was to happen, they could end up developing a superiority complex. In The Beginning Hearing this made me think about how I thought that I was ‘special’ when I first got into self-development and spirituality. This was partly due to the kinds of things a mentor used to say to me and what I was learning about, along with the fact that I felt worthless. What brought me back down to earth was when I came to see that knowing this stuff didn’t really change my life and all the pain I later had to work through. But what is clear is that it is very easy to develop an inflated sense of self through being into this kind of stuff. Final Thoughts I currently believe that while we are all equal inasmuch as we all come from the same source, we have minds and bodies that stop us from being equal in the physical reality that we live in. So, if someone has been blessed with a great mind, for instance, it will be up to them to use it for the betterment of humanity. Not to allow this to go to their head and to end up using it to take advantage of their fellow humans beings. And, just because someone was born this way, it doesn’t mean that they should be punished for it either.
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Critical Thinking: Will The Drug Industry Love Danny Rose For Talking About His Depression?9/6/2018
Recently, an English professional footballer opened up about his battle with depression, and this ended up being big news in England. This was partly because he is a well-known footballer and partly because of what he spoke about.
He said that there were three main reasons why he ended up in a bad way. Firstly, one of his uncles committed suicide, secondly, his mother was racially abused, and thirdly, someone with a gun attacked his brother at his family home. A Tough Time This was after he was unable to play football, due to the fact that he was trying to recover from a severe knee injury. Taking all this into account, it could be said that it is not much of a surprise that he had ‘mental health’ problems. Even so, based on what has been said about him in the papers, it is as though what he went through was abnormal. This has meant that he has been seen as ‘brave’ for speaking out about what he went though. Part of Life If someone went through something like this and it didn’t have an effect on how they felt, it would probably show that there is something wrong with them. So, for him to feel ‘depressed’ after what he went through shows that he is human. The fact that it is a surprise that he went through all this can create the impression that human beings are supposed to feel good all the time. No matter what they go through, they should always have a smile on their face. The Modern Day World This goes into how what it means to be human is slowly being redefined. In the same way that just about every hair from the neck down is no longer seen as serving a purpose; so-called negative emotions are also perceived in the same way. With this in mind, they need to be totally removed, which will allow someone to walk around in a blissful state at all times. The drug industry will be there to give people what they need to make this a reality. Shame-Based Society There is no doubt that it is relatively new for people to open up about their inner world, and this is why when someone does open up, it is big news. One way of looking at this would be to say that it shows how common it is for people to hide how they feel. As a result of this, it has created a society where people think that there must be something wrong with them if they don’t always feel happy and totally at peace. They are then going to feel the need to wear a mask around others and to act as though they have it all together. Gender Roles What this has resulted in is millions a millions of people hiding how they really feel from others and suffering in the process. And, as it can be normal for a man to have the need to look strong, it can be more common for a man to suffer in silence than a woman. They are then going to feel ashamed of something that is simply part of the human experience. Trying to go against this is what will lead to problems, as opposed to the experience itself. The Solution One of the ways that Danny Rose dealt with his depression was by going on medication, and this was something that his close family didn’t even know about. Keeping so much to himself was bound to cause him to suffer. If humans being were independent doing something this wouldn’t be a problem, but as they are interdependent, this is not going to work. This is why talking to a counsellor, for instance, can be so beneficial, as one will be able to get everything of their chest and this will have a positive effect on their well-being. A Strange Scenario One can only speculate why he kept all this to himself for so long, and perhaps he felt too ashamed to open up about what he was going through. This was someone who earned enough money to have a whole team of experts, yet he still suffered in silence. Along with feeling too shamed to open up to his family and friends, maybe he thought that they wouldn’t be able to handle it. One also has to wonder how close he is to the people in his life, as surely they would have noticed that something wasn’t right; it’s not as though he was someone who lived on the edge of society and had no one around him. An Unemployed Ambassador As he said that he went on medication to handle what he was going through, there is no doubt that this would have caused a lot of people to believe that taking medication is the right approach to take. In this case, it will be no different to how some people believe that taking a pill is the way to deal with a headache. Clearly, this is going to help the drug industry to make even more money. So, in the same way that some doctors are given special ‘gifts’ for using certain drugs; Danny Rose would have surely earned a number of special gifts for what he said, if he was a doctor. Going Deeper Now, there could be seen as a time and a place for taking medication for mental and emotional problems. But if this is seen as the right approach to take whenever someone feels down or has gone through a traumatic experience (or a number of them), it can set them to be dependent on drugs. Challenges are part of life, and means that it is not going to be possible for someone live a life where nothing bad even happens to them. Along with what happens to them, there will be what will happen to their friends and family, which will also affect them. Conclusion Therefore, instead of trying to deny reality, it would be better for them to look into how they can develop the strength to handle the challenges of life. Doing this will create resilience and make it easier for them to handle the ups and downs. Relying on drugs will just make them weaker and it will also stop them from developing self-knowledge. When it comes to having good mental and emotional health, there are a number of factors involved. Having close connections with others, eating the right food, exercising, being able to cry, getting enough sleep, mediating, healing early abuse and/or neglect (if there was any) and spending time in nature all play a part. The main thing is that they reach out for support and don’t allow themselves to suffer in silence.
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If someone had the desire to be in a relationship, they might think about what they can do to find the right person. This could then be a time when they will join at least one dating app and/or they might start going out a few times a week.
Now, this is not to say that they will end up going to a bar; what they could do is find other ways to socialise with others. For example, they could go to classes at a gym or they could decide to learn a certain style of dancing. A Different Experience Then again, they could be someone who is already fairly sociable, so they won’t need to make any big changes in their life. Through going out so much and meeting different people, it might not be long until they find a suitable partner. This may also mean that they won’t feel the need to join a dating app. Perhaps they have taken this approach in the past and it hasn’t gone well, or maybe they just prefer to meet people in the real world. Tuning In One of the benefits of meeting people in the real world is that they will be able to get a sense of what they are really like. When it comes to online dating, anything can be written on a profile, pictures can be edited and anything can be said over a screen. In the real world, it is not going to be possible for this to take place. So, if they are in tune with themselves, they will be able to get a sense of what another person is like when they meet them in person. A Number of Traps Still, even if someone does take this route, they can still end up being deceived. If, for example, they were to get too caught up in how they feel, this would make it harder for them to be present and to see if another person is actually right for them. In the real world, people can still put on an act and wear things that can have a big effect on others. What this emphasises is how important it is for someone to operate as a whole human being, as opposed to one part of them taking over. The One When they have found another person who they think is right for them, they may take the time to get to know them. Alternatively, it might not take place at such a slow pace, meaning a lot could happen in a relatively short period of time. Even so, they might describe this person as: respectful, attentive and kind, amongst other things. If, on the other hand, this person wasn’t like this, they might feel uncomfortable and cut their ties. Another Scenario It could be said that this will be the sensible approach to take; after all, if they didn’t do anything about it in the beginning, it would be a lot harder for them to walk away as time goes by. Through being around this kind of behaviour, they might end up becoming comfortable with it. However, there are going to be others who end up feeling uncomfortable when another person treats them well. As a result of this, they will do what they can to end the relationship – that’s if they even get to this point. Conflict Due to this, someone like this may have the tendency to end up with people who treat them badly. But while this could be what generally takes place, it doesn’t mean that they will be happy with this. When this happens, they might think about what it would be like to be in a healthy relationship, for instance. But, if they do end up with another person who is different, they won’t be able to embrace them. The Reasons It is then likely to be rare for someone like this to get close to another person who treats them well. And, when this does happen, they could come up with all kinds of reasons as to why they are not a good match for them. Yet, no matter what they say; the fact is that a big part of them only feels comfortable around people who treat them like dirt. The alternative would be to say that this person is just unlucky, but this is not the truth. A Closer Look If they were to get in touch with what is taking place at a deeper level, they may find that they feel completely worthless. This will cause them to believe that they don’t deserve to be with someone who treats them well. And, if they are worthless and another person likes them, it will show that this person must have something wrong with them, too. If this wasn’t the case, there would be no reason for them to like them. Way Back What this can show is that they were abused and/or neglected during their childhood years, which would have caused them to believe that they were flawed and less-than human. This would have permeated their whole being. The years would then have passed and this would have caused them to disconnect from what took place. While this would have been a way for them to feel better, the downside is that this will stop them from being able to see why they are experiencing life in this way as an adult. Awareness Ultimately, there is nothing wrong with who they are, and this is why it is vital that they reach out for the right support. This is something that can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
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The idea that the people at the top keep people in line by dividing them is nothing new; this has been going on for many, many years. Over the years, A number of words have been used to describe who these people are.
In recent years, they have been described as the ‘deep state’, whereas in the past they have been called the illuminate, amongst other things. For others, all these words are just distractions, and that it is actually the Zionists who are running just about everything from behind the scenes. Moving On But with that aside, there are a number of ways that people in this planet are divided and, when this happens, it stops them from being able to work together. If they were to work together, the people behind the scenes (whoever they are) would lose all their power. Yet, all the time that so many people are fighting amongst themselves, they are too fractured to truly change the world. Now, this is not to say that change is not taking place; what it comes down to is that it is taking place at a much slower rate than it would otherwise. Control Freaks When someone has the need to control another person, it is likely to show that they feel completely powerless. Not only this, they are likely to be carrying a lot of fear, which is why they can’t trust and let go. With this in mind, the people at the top who do everything they can to control people are unlikely to be healthy individuals. There is a strong chance that these people are completely disconnected from their true self, living on the surface of themselves. Deluded In addition to the amount of fear that they are carrying around with them, they are also going to have a false sense of importance. It is then not that they will feel less-than others; they will feel as though they are more-than others. Through believing that they are better than others, it will be as though they have every right to treat them as though they have no value. It is then clear to see why it has been said that the real criminals are not in prison – they are free to run the world. Two Parts Nevertheless, the few can only control the many because so many people go along with what is taking place. If everyone took a step back and realised what was taking place, it would soon be over. One of the biggest challenges is that the modern-day world provides so many distractions, distractions that stop the average person from asking the big questions and then harnessing their energy to do something about it. Different forms of entertainment, along with the control of the money system, stop a lot of people from ever getting to this point. Divide and Rule For a number of years now, there has been a big focus on race and sexual orientation, amongst other things. A number name for this is identity politics, and this has created an incredible amount lot of conflict. This is what has been going on in a number of western countries, and could then be seen as what has been going on at a local level. At a global level, however, there has been a focus on what is going on in the Middle East, and how a number of these countries are a problem. The Drama Triangle As a result for this, it means that if someone belongs to a certain race (this usually relates to people who are not white), they are a victim and, if they belong to another race (this usually relates to people who are white and white men in particular), they are a perpetrator. A similar dynamic also applies when it comes to different sexual orientations. When it comes to certain countries in the west, these countries are seen as victims, but when it comes to certain countries in the Middle East, these countries are seen as perpetrators. In order for someone to go along with this way of seeing life, they need to see life as being very black and white. An Aversion to Thinking If they see life as being black and white, it is likely to show that they don’t like to think for themselves. Along with this, they will probably feel powerless, as this will be what causes them to feel like a victim. Another part of this is that they might have an entitlement mentality, with this being what will cause them to expect things without having to give anything in return. Fortunately, the people at the top will be there to rescue these victims and to punish the perpetrators. The Third Element So, after conditioning people to see life through a lens where someone is either a victim or perpetrator, they will be there to bring justice and to make everything better. There will be how this takes place at a local level and how it will take place at a global level. At a local level, now that it is even harder for people who have different colour skin to get on with each other, they will reward some people and punish others. But while it will seem as though they are helping certain people, what they will really be doing is disempowering them. The Same Old Story As they are portrayed as victims, it will mean that they have no control over their life, and it is then going to be impossible for them to do anything to make it better. Consequently, they will be completely depended on the very people who conditioned them to see themselves in this way. At a global level, now that so many countries in the Middle East have been demonised and are seen as a ‘threat’ to the western way of life, it will mean that the people who live in the west will need to be saved by the same people who helped to destabilise this part of the world to begin with. One way of looking at all this would be to say that it is all smoke and mirrors. Conclusion When we focus on our differences as opposed to our similarities, it will stop them us from being able to work together. The more identified we are with how we look, our sexual orientation and our gender, the harder it will be for us to accept the fact that we all come from the same source and that life is one big illusion One way for someone to see that they are more than their appearance, their sexual orientation and gender, along with the identity that they have created, is by meditating. They will then be able to observe their mind and to see how it functions.
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A few weeks ago, while I was waiting for something in a city nearby, I was asked by someone if I had watched the royal wedding. But before I go into what happened next, I want to go into what it was like for me before it took place.
The media spent a lot of time talking about what it would be like and there were people around me who also spoke about it. Therefore, the only way it would have been possible for me to get away from it all would have been to go into the middle of nowhere. Another Event Still, I didn’t pay too much attention to what was going on around me and just carried on with the rest of my life. I didn’t even feel the need to think critically about the whole thing, which is probably why I didn’t write an article about it. About six years ago, I wrote an article titled, ‘The Royal Family: Why Are Some People Obsessed With The Royal Family?’ Until a few days ago, I hadn’t felt the need to say anything else about this family. The Trigger I told the person above that I didn’t watch it and they were baffled as to why this way. They asked me why and I simply said that I had more important things to do with my time. It has been estimated that over fifty million people watched this wedding, so it is clear that there are a lot of people who admire this family. I don’t have an issue with this; it is their choice how they spend their time and for to them to decide who is worth their attention. Stepping Back To me, these so-called royals are no different to anyone else; what is different is that they live in a way that is radically different to how most people live on the planet. In my eyes, the royal family is just one big illusion, and this illusion is kept in place due to the amount of people who buy into it. If I was to watch a Disney film about kings and queens I would a along with it, as I would know that it is all just make-believe. But, for me to buy into the royal family that exists in the real world, I would need to delude myself and to devolve to an earlier point in my development. Projection I think that when someone sees the royal family as being different, and even better than themselves, it shows that they are unable to see them for who they are. They are human beings; nothing more, nothing less. What this can show is that they are placing the undeveloped parts of themselves onto these people, which will have caused them to put them on a pedestal. Thus, if were to own these parts and then to ingrate them, they would no longer need to elevate these people. Final Thoughts Ultimately, if someone puts other people on a pedestal, they are going to stop themselves from growing. Also, when this takes place, it will be as though they are a child and the people they put on a pedestal are their caregivers. They will then have regressed, thereby losing their ability to see that they are an adult and not a child. This is not to say that they will realise that this is taking place, though, as it could take place unconsciously.
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After I had been on the path for a number of years, I ended up doing a fair amount of healing work around my own path lives. At the time, this appeared to be something that would allow me to make progress.
Once I stopped doing this, I rarely thought about past lives. This all changed many years after when I started to look through my birth chart, with their being a number of parts that went into this area. A Key Moment A little while after this, I ended up taking a greater look at path lives after I came into contact with someone who was into this topic. This was someone who had a very deep understanding and was happy to share his insights with me. Along with this, he even came up with a few people who he thought that I had been in the past. I thought this was very interesting, and I could relate to a lot of the people who he mentioned. An Escape One thing that came to mind, through hearing about past lives, was how easy it must be for someone to leave the present moment if they are into something like this. What happened in their past will then completely consume their present life. If something like this was to happen, it is likely to show that their present life is not very fulfilling. Even so, focusing on what happened in the past is not going to allow them to change their present circumstances. Another Occurrence I also heard about how it is possible to end up in a relationship with someone who we were with in a past life, and how this was likely to lead to a really strong connection - a connection that is far deeper than it would be otherwise. This made me think about how I have had friends who I felt as though I had known for a very long time, even if I hadn’t known them for very long. Still, I could see how this could cause people to stay in dysfunctional relationships. A Trap For example, if someone believes that they were with another person in a past life, it could cause them hold onto a relationship that is harming them. If, on the other hand, they didn’t believe that this was the case, they might be more likely to cut their ties. Ultimately, it doesn’t matter how long someone has known another person for; if being with them is wearing them down, it is probably going to be best for them to end the relationship. Avoidance What this could show is that someone is carrying a lot of emotional pain, and staying with them is a way for them to keep this pain at bay. If they believe that they can’t live without his person, for instance, this is likely to be so. No matter what has happened between them in the past, they are both on their own path and have their own life to live. Staying with this person to avoid pain is not going to aid their own evolution. Another Angle This is then going to be no different to how someone can see another person as their parent, with this stopping them from having a healthy relationship. What this is likely to show is that their early years were not very nurturing. But unless they are able to step back and to see that they are projecting their unhealed parts onto the other person, they will continue to be dependent on the other person and to stay in an undeveloped state. The pain that is within them will cause them to feel as though they are not a whole human being. Final Thoughts I think that this shows that even if a past life connection exists; one is still going to have stuff to work on. This kind of connection doesn’t make one except from having to deal with the kinds of issues that would arise in a ‘normal’ relationship. The mind does what it can to experience pleasure and to avoid pain, and this is why it will be happy to see a relationship as being a past life connection. Doing so will simply be another way for it to avoid pain.
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It can appear as though the people in power are there to look out for their fellow human beings; nothing more; nothing less. Or, to be more accurate, the people who appear to be in power.
The reason for this is that the people who are actually running the show rarely show their face (and even then, the average person wouldn’t know who they are), and the ones that do have very little power in comparison. These people are often nothing more than pawns. A Big Crack Down But with that aside, there are a number of things have come to fruition to ‘protect’ people. For example, there was a time when people were able to express their views on social media, but now this has all changed. It has been said that the reason for this is that this was something that was causing people to be offended. Therefore, what could and what couldn’t be said on these platforms had to be changed. Hidden There is even a social media platform out there that will hide certain comments that ‘may contain offensive content’. It is then going to up to people to decide whether or not they view these comments. After seeing a warning like this, it could cause someone to experience anxiety, and to worry about what is on the other side, so to speak. Then again, reading something like this could trigger their curiosity and make them look. The Education System When it comes to the real world, there are educational institutions that have also cracked down on speech that is offensive. Additionally, there will be speech that is classed as ‘hate speech’. Now, certain people will feel as though they are walking around on egg shells, but it will be for the greater good. Through keeping their offensive views to themselves, it will be possible for their fellow students to feel safe and to learn. A Right And if someone has paid a hell of a lot of money to study at a university, for instance, they will deserve to be somewhere where they can relax. If they were in a hostile environment, this wouldn’t take place. Ultimately, everyone on campus will have to be very careful not only of what comes out of their mouth, but also what they think about. As if they allow certain things to enter their mind, they might end up saying them. A Thought Criminal If someone was to say the wrong thing, they could soon find that their world has been turned upside down. But while this could cause them a lot of problems, it could be said that it serves them right for offending another person or a group of people. This is something that students will be able to avoid by finding out about what is or what isn’t acceptable. To keep up to date with what they can and can’t say, they will need to pay attention to what is going on around them as this is not going to be something that is set in stone. Back To the Virtual World Along with what social media sites are doing to look after people, there is what a video sharing platform is doing. There are videos that have lost certain features, with these videos being seen “as inappropriate or offensive to some audiences.” Fortunately, then, this video sharing platform is doing what it can to make sure that people are not made to feel uncomfortable. With this in mind, this site needs to be commended for the work that they are doing for humanity. A Deeper Look On the surface, it can seem as though these sources, as well as others, are there to make the world a better place, or to use the right term – more inclusive. Clearly, thinking about other people’s feelings is important and it goes without saying that there is to need to harm others. However, there is a big difference between harming another person directly and another person being ‘harmed’ through what they have heard. In the first case, they will have been hurt by someone else, but in the second case, they will have been harmed by themselves. The Death of Emotional Responsibility The trouble is that people are being conditioned to believe that other people are in control of whether they feel offended or not, meaning that it has got nothing to do with how their mind interprets what is said. It is then as though the average person is a defenceless child, which is why they need other people to look out for them. When these people were younger, they probably would have had a mother and a father (or just a mother) to look out for them, but now they are older the government and different corporations will watch over them. Their caregivers are likely to have actually cared about them; whereas the people behind these organisations are likely to have a completely different agenda. One Purpose One of the best ways to control people is keep them in a childlike state; as a result of this, they will feel powerless, dependent and emotionally weak. People like this are not going to put up any resistance or to fight back. It is then as though these people realise that you can’t stop people from growing physically, but what you can do it stop them from being able to grow up mentally and emotionally. The last thing these people want is a planet full of people who can think for themselves and have the ability to handle their own emotions. Conclusion One of the of the biggest challenges with censoring information that supposedly causes offense is that it makes it harder for people to grow and to develop. Also, it has been said that the west is starting to fall behind the parts of the world that have not been affected by social justice/cultural Marxism and this not much of a surprise – not causing offence is often more important than making progress. In many ways, it’s as though life is too easy for a lot of people in the west and, along with making them less resilient, this could be why trivial matters have taken centre stage. If western civilisation does crumble – as has been predicted, due to a number of different factors – more energy and attention is likely to be directed towards real problems.
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I was thinking the other day about how much of an obsession there is with celebrities in today’s world. Actors, sports stars, singers, and even people who have been on reality TV are often seen as gods/goddesses.
On the surface, it can seem as though most people in the west are not very religious and have moved on from this, but it might be more accurate to say that they simply have different gods now. In general, they don’t look up to someone in the sky, but what a lot of people do do, is look up to the people they see on TV or on a stage, for instance. Everyday Life Yet, this is not the only way in which this takes place; there is also something that can take place in the relationships that we have with others. For example, someone could be in a relationship where they put their partner on a pedestal. It is then not going to matter that this person is a fellow human being, as they will see them as being above them. Or, if they don’t see them as some kind of god/goddess, they could see them as a mother or a father. One Direction Through seeing another person as being better than they are, they will end up feeling less-than them. It is then going to be incredibly difficult for them to have a balanced relationship with this person. In addition to see them in this way - and feeling inferior as a result - they might allow this person to treat them badly. Either way, seeing someone in this way is going to make it hard for them to truly connect with them. Another Parent Seeing their partner as a mother/father is also going to lead to the same outcome. What this comes down to is that when someone is unable to see another person as just another human being, it is likely to show that their attention is in their head and that they are projecting parts of themselves onto them. The reason for this is that the mind sees things from a place of duality, whereas the heart doesn’t. So, if they were in their body it would allow them to see that the other person is inherently no better or worse than they are. A Barrier If they were to tune into what is taking place in their body, they may find that they are carrying a lot of pain. Therefore, as a way to avoid this pain and to feel better, they end up displacing the ‘positive’ parts of themselves that they haven’t developed onto the other person (and if they displace the ‘negative’ parts of themselves that they don’t want to own onto the other person, it will cause them to see them as less-than they are). Being obsessed with the person who they have projected these parts onto will be a way to keep this pain at bay, and by identifying with their own projection, it will allow them to elevate themselves. If they were to no longer see their partner in this way, they would have to face their own inner wounds. The Benefit This would cause them to experience a lot of pain, but what it would do is allow them to grow and to develop. And, as they are no longer projecting so much onto their partner, they might be able to truly connect to them. Instead of having a surface level relationship where they are stuck in their heard, they will be able to open their heart and to experience intimacy; then again, if this was to happen their relationship might come to an end. It can all depend on if their partner is willing to work on themselves and if the attraction between them is still there.
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That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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