Firstly, if you haven’t watched 'Ready Player One' and you plan to watch it, it might be a good idea to read this article at a later date. The reason for this is that I don’t want to give any of the film away or to influence how you perceive it.
I had heard about this film a number of years ago and I even saw a few posters for it when I was in Stockholm, Sweden. So, when a friend asked me if I would like to go and see it, I was happy to take him up on the offer. The Opening Scene At the beginning of the film, the main character talks about how, in the future, people no longer try to solve problems; they just try to outlive them. But while just about everywhere looks a mess, this doesn’t mean that these people don’t have anything good to look at. Firstly, there are people at the top who live differently and secondly, the people at the bottom can escape from reality into virtual reality. This is an option that is, of course, available to the people at the top. Nothing New Clearly, there are plenty of ways for someone to escape as it is; virtual reality is not needed. In addition to this, I also thought that there are plenty of people who don’t have the desire to solve their problems, preferring to tolerate them instead. There is no doubt that if more people had this approach, the world would no longer function in the same way. Just like in the film, the planet would begin to look like a junk yard, and it could be said that this would show that the majority of people on the planet feel completely helpless. His Family Shortly after this, the main actor talks about how he lives with his aunt. I think his father died when he was really young and his mother is not around, but I can’t remember why this was. Yet, even if he didn’t say anything about his father, it doesn’t seem as though he has had a strong masculine figure in his life. He comes across as someone who has been neglected. A Key Role For one thing, it is as though he is a bit of a loser in life; he is not someone who knows how to assert himself and he appears to lack direction. When he is in the virtual world, he is more capable, but he still lacks backbone. However, if his father wasn’t around during his early years to give him the guidance he desperately needed, it is to be expected that he will be more feminine than masculine. At the same time, his early experiences could have caused him to go the other extreme and to disconnect from his feminine aspect. More Evidence His lack of development stands out whenever he meets the woman that he likes in the virtual world. When he is around her, he is unable to experience self-control and has the need to please her. So, instead of acting as though he is the centre of his own world and maintaining his centre, he acts as though the woman is the centre of his world. He is then used to giving his power away. Maturation The challenges that he faces in the virtual world as well as the real world, have a positive effect on him. One thing that shakes him up is when the woman he is attracted to (loves) tells him that what is going on in the virtual world is not a game and goes into what she has been through. He soon realises how important the game is and gradually develops into a leader. I thought that maybe the reason why he was so fascinated by the creator of virtual reality game was due the fact that he grew up without a father; he was then looking fill the hole that his father left within him. The Ending Once he has received the final key, he ends up meeting the creator of the virtual reality game and finds out that he is not part of the program. It is then as though the creator of the software is also still alive and is, therefore, also plugged in somewhere. He had a small child with him, too, and I thought this child could have been the main actor when he was younger. This would then mean that the creator of the software was the main actor’s father. An Entertaining Film Another part of me thought that this couldn’t be the case, as the main actor would have experienced a strong reaction when he saw the small child. I saw the film in 2D, but I think it would have been far better in 3D. If was to rate this film, I would give it a seven out of ten. The story is pretty good and the special effects are really impressive.
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Relationships: What Can Happen To Someone When Their Partner Denies That They Are Cheating?10/4/2018
When someone is in relationship, they will have the opportunity to grow and to heal any wounds that they may have. This can mean that there will be moments that are deeply fulfilling and moments that are extremely painful pain.
What will play a big part here is how much pain one is carrying. If they have a lot of baggage, they could be used to experiencing more downs than ups in their relationship. Unaware However, even if one is carrying a lot of baggage, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. Instead, they could believe that the other person is causing them to feel the way they do, believing that they are to blame. If they have this outlook, it is not going to be possible for them to take responsibility for their own pain. The other person could put up with this, thereby causing them to be weighed down by issues that don’t belong to them. The Defining Factor What this will show is that they lack self-awareness, with this being the reason why they can’t own their own issues. The reason why the other person goes along with this could be because this is what feels comfortable. Perhaps they grew up in an environment where their caregiver didn’t take responsibility either, causing them to have a false sense of responsibility and to lack boundaries. This then stops them from standing their ground. A Battle The energy that one person uses to blame the other could aid their own development, as opposed to being wasted in this manner. This is then going to be a relationship that will drain both of them. Before long, one of them could decide that enough is enough and walk away, and this could be the person who doesn’t want to work through their issues. They could soon find someone else and the same thing could happen all over again. One Problem Conversely, one could be in a position where one issue is making it hard for them to relax around their partner, and this could cold be something that consumes their attention when they are apart. One may believe that their partner is cheating on them and this could cause them experience a lot of pain. They could talk to their partner, or they could end up talking to their friends about what is going on for them. If they speak directly to their partner, it might allow them to allay their fears but if they speak to their fiends, it could make things worse. Another Approach Alternatively, one could take a step back and reflect on what is taking place internally and externally. This will give them the chance to see if there is anything to what they believe or if they are just overreacting. During this time, they may find that something from their past has been triggered. Maybe they feel worthless and have a fear of being abandoned, which is why they have come to believe that their partner is straying. The Past is Present At the beginning of their life, they may have been neglected by their caregivers, and this would have caused them to believe that they were worthless. The years would then have passed, but they will still fear that they will be left. Through being egocentric at this age, they would have believed that they were only left since they had no value. In reality, they were left due to the issues that their caregiver/s had; that’s all there is to it. External Support What they could then do is to find someone who can assist them, such as a therapist or a healer. Once they have worked though their pain, it will be easier for them to live in the present moment. Yet, if they were to find that what is taking place within them is not having an effect on how they are perceiving reality, they could believe that it would be a good idea for them to speak to their partner. After talking about this with them, they could find that there is nothing for them to worry about. Denial At the same time, one could have clear evidence that something is going on and they could sense that something is not right, but their partner could deny it. If their partner is not willing to admit to what is taking place, they might wonder if the time has come to end the relationship. On the other hand, they could go along with what their partner says and start to question themselves. As time goes by, they could disconnect from themselves and only pay attention to what comes out of their partner’s mouth. Out of Touch One will have allowed their partner to tell them what is or what isn’t taking place, and this will cause them to ignore their own feelings and instincts. Their partner is then going to have a lot of power over them. Taking this into account, the sooner one gets back in touch with their inner world the better their life will be. The person they are with is not going to have their best interests at heart, so they will probably need to cut their ties with them. Awareness If one can relate to this, and they want to change their life, they may need to reach out for external assistance. This is something that can be provided by a therapist or healer, and the support of their friends and family may also be needed.
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Once I knew that I would be going to Sweden, Stockholm, I started to think about what it would be like. Going away didn’t consume my mind, though, as I was engaged with what was taking place in my life.
I wanted to go away, no doubt about it; but I wasn’t in a position where I needed to get away. What I was doing was fulfilling and this stopped me from getting too caught up in what I would be doing whilst I was away. A Different Climate What was different about this trip was that I would be going somewhere that was cold, and this made a change. In the past, I had generally gone to countries that were warm and were only a few hours away. Yet, even though I was going somewhere cold and it would only take a few hours to get there, I thought that it would be unlike anywhere I had been before. So, when the time came for me to go away, I started to get excited. The First Signs On the plane, the safety video was in English and then it was followed up in Norwegian, due to the airline that I was flying with. But even though I wasn’t going Norway, this made it even clearer that I was going away. Soon after this, I landed in Stockholm and when I got off the plane, heard people talking in another language. It wasn’t until I got outside and was exposed to the cold temperature that I fully realised that I was in another country. Extremely Curious It was incredibly cold and, as I didn’t go to sleep the night before, I just wanted to go to sleep. Nevertheless, now that I was away I wanted to find out more about Sweden and to experience their way of life. The reason for this is that when I go away, I don’t expect to bring my way of life with me and to live how I would back home. I want to find out what is and what isn’t acceptable, what kind of food they eat, and to learn about their history, among other things. One Moment While I was walking around the city, I saw an advertisement that spoke about where I could find tapas to eat. Now, I have tried taps in the past and I enjoyed eating them, but I wasn’t in Sweden to eat tapas. Similarly, I didn’t go to there to eat McDonalds or to have a coffee at Starbucks; I was there to experience the Swedish way of life. I thought about how there is a fine line between adding things to a culture and enriching it, and adding things and completely destroying a culture. No Different When it come to the main shopping area, for instance, I could have been anywhere in the world; it was no different to being in London or Australia. The same could be said for the hotel that I stayed in. After I started to walk around the old town I could see that I was somewhere different. This was a special place, and what helped was that I was with a friend from Sweden who could show me around. A Wonderful Time Seeing these buildings and finding out about the history of Stockholm, Sweden was thoroughly enjoyable. I even had the chance to write on the wall of a coffee shop – whoever goes there can leave a message or just write their name on the wall. I wanted to see the Viking burial ground and the 17-century ship, but I didn’t have time in the end. There is plenty to see and do here if you are looking for somewhere different to explore.
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The last time I spoke to a friend of mine called, Errol Campbell, we touched upon the effect that the mother/father wound can have on someone , and this time we looked into another important area. But before I got into what this was, I want to talk about how this topic came up.
This was something that came up after he mentioned a self-development video that he had watched recently. It was a video that had been viewed many times and it had a very ‘positive’ message. The Way Things Are From what he said, I thought that this video had a lot in common with a lot of the videos that are popular online. If a video talks about the so-called positive side of life, it is likely to do far better than a video that goes deeper. To be more precise, a video that talks about how to be happy or how to attract good things is likely to be more popular than video that goes into how important it is to work through our pain. After all, it is feels far better to experience pleasure than it does to experience pain. Vital Work So, after he spoke about this video, he lamented the fact that the videos that are popular don’t talk about shadow work. Errol is a teacher who assists others in doing this type of work, so he knows how important it is. I would say that even though there are a lot of people who are into self-development, very few people go to a deeper level. In a lot of cases, this is just another way for someone to avoid their pain, not face it. A Big Impact Along with his, he wondered what kind of effect this was having on the world. What this comes down to is that when we don’t deal with what is taking palace at a deeper level, it ends up being externalised. Therefore, someone can’t completely avoid the baggage within them; events, situations and circumstances will be created to allow them to become aware that which they have disconnected from within themselves. With this in mind, if someone wants to make the world a better place, it will be essential for them to work through their own issues. An Active Participant What this shows it that it is not possible for someone to simply observe the world; they are playing a part in what happens. Without realising it, their unacknowledged issues can be fuelling the drama that they see around them. I have heard Errol use the term ‘Shadow work’ before, but it is not a term that I have used. Still, the kind of work that he is referring to is a fundamental part of what I write about. Final Thoughts I found it very stimulating to hear his thoughts on this area, as well as the other things that he spoke about. If you would like to find out more about Errol, and the services that he offers, please go to - http://sourceawakening.com/.
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It could be said that there are a number of reasons as to why one would want to be with another person. And while they might be aware of what these reasons are, there is also the chance that they won’t be aware of all of them.
For example, one might want to share their life with someone; perhaps they want to travel the world with them, too. It is then going to be about companionship, as opposed to having the need for someone to complete them. Whole One will feel like a whole human being, and this is why they are not looking for too much. Through being this way, it will be a lot easier for them to find someone who is right for them. Firstly, as they feel whole, it should be less of a challenge for them to find someone who also feels whole. Secondly, they will be able to take their time; they won’t need to rush this process. Another Experience Alternatively, one could say they want one thing but another part of them could want something else entirely. Consciously, then, one could say that they don’t want anything too heavy. This will probably mean that they will come across as anything but needy and they could see themselves as someone who is “independent”. Yet, deep down, they could have the need for someone to complete them. Disconnected What this is likely to show is that they have developed a false-self, causing them to lose touch with their true feelings and needs. Their tough exterior is going to be nothing more than facade. They are likely to carry a lot of shame, which is why they have the need to create the impression that they are their own island. As a result of this, they are likely to believe that they would be rejected and abandoned if they revealed their needs and inherent vulnerability. A Big Difference How they come across in the beginning of a relationship is then going to be radically different to how they come across as time goes by. That is, of course, if they allow their true-self to come through. One could look into why their behaviour has changed, or they could do what they can to return to how they were before. Whether or not the relationship lasts can all depend on how they respond to what has been brought up from within them. The Mirror Someone like this can have the tendency to be drawn to people who are incredibly needy, and this could cause them to judge these people. Ultimately, they will be mirroring back what which one needs to deal with within themselves. The trouble is that if one is not aware of how their inner world is being projected onto others, they won’t be able to take advantage of this information. It will just be seen as a sign that they just happened to end up with people who have issues. Another Scenario One could be in a position where they feel starved of attention, and this could be how they have felt for most of their life, meaning that they will just want someone to be there for them. Consequently, they could end up with whoever gives them the attention they crave. It is then going to similar to someone who, ends up eating anything, due to being so hungry. They won’t be discerning and this could cause them to end up with someone who is not right for them. More Drama Even worse, they could end up with someone who is abusive, and this will make their life worse than it was before. The pain they felt when they needed attention is unlikely to be as bad the pain they will feel through being with someone like this. Their need for attention would have stopped them from being able to think clearly; their priority would have been to fill one need and one need only. If their need for attention wasn’t so strong, their life would be very different. A Closer Look Through experiencing life in this way, one could see themselves as a victim, but this is not going to be the truth. The only way their life will change is if they recognise the part that they are playing in all this. If they are willing to do this, they can look into why they crave so much attention and then to do something about this. What this can show is that they lack a strong sense of self, thereby causing them to feel empty unless they receive attention from others. Way Back Perhaps their early years were a time when they didn’t receive the kind of care that they needed in order to develop into a whole human being. The attention that they needed wouldn’t have been provided, which is why they need other adults to give them so much attention. When this wasn’t provided, one may have felt invisible and as though they didn’t exist, and this can be how they feel as an adult. The child within them is likely to be in a lot of pain, pain that needs to be acknowledged. Awareness If one can relate to this, and they want to change their life, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
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After a terrorist attack has taken place in England, people are usually told that they shouldn’t get angry. Getting angry after something like this has taken place is seen as something negative.
Instead, people are expected to just carry on as normal and to not allow themselves to experience any ‘negative’ emotions. It is then as though a civilised human being wouldn’t allow themselves to get angry after something like this has taken place. Another Example Along with this, people in the western world are constantly being told how borders, walls and boundaries are no longer needed in today’s world. So, while they were needed in the past, this is no longer the case. If someone does believe that they are needed, they can end up being called a “racist” and/or “xenophobic”. Based on this, someone would need to have something wrong with them if they are not willing to go along with this outlook. A Modern Day Human Taking all this into account, it is as though it is no longer necessary for someone to listen to their mind and their instincts. The only thing they need to do is to keep their attention in their heart and everything will be fine. When ones attention is there, there will be no need for them to get angry when a terrorist has killed people and they will be happy to allow anyone to come into their country. This part of them will focus on all that is good and it will be happy to see the best in everyone. A Sitting Duck Their mind, the part of them that questions things and their body, the part of them that will tell them when their life is at risk, will be out of action. Therefore, while one can appear to be an evolved human being, they will simply be someone who has lost touch with two vital parts of themselves. They will be an adult, but an adult who has a very childlike view of the world and the people in it. Through being this way, their life will be at a greater risk, and this is likely to put other people’s lives at a greater risk, too. At The Top This can be the case when someone like this, someone who is out of touch with their instincts and can’t think clearly, is a politician. They can be all for open borders and this is going to stop them from looking into if this is actually a good idea. Letting people in can feel like the right thing to do and their empathy will get the better of them. Someone like this might have plenty of money, meaning that they probably won’t be affected by the consequences of their actions – or if they are, it might be a long time until it affects them. All Levels They are not going to be a operating as a whole human being and this is why they are unable to make rational decisions. If someone like this didn’t have so much power, their actions wouldn’t have the same impact. And, as this is how they operate, it is to be expected that they would try to push their way of operating onto other people. Even though they are doing more harm than good, they are likely to believe that their way is the best way. By Design At the same time, there is always the chance that someone like this is only too aware of how destructive it is someone to ignore their mind and instincts. This will show that they have a hidden agenda. It could then be said that people like this want their fellow human beings to be extremely passive, as this will make them easy to control. And, the best way to do this is to make sure they are not connected to the part of them that is there to keep them alive. A Negative Association Getting angry after a terrorist attack is perfectly rational, just as it is rational to have an issue with open borders. But, if the people at the top can make the populace feel bad for getting angry and having a problem with this idea, they will stop listening to their inner wisdom. Ultimately, it is way to condition people to tolerate being treated badly, and this is what an abuser will do to another person. By gradually breaking them down, there will come a time when they no longer resist what is taking place. A Divided Human Being Someone like this is then not going to realise when their life is under threat or when they are being violated, causing them to be an easy target. The part of themselves that is there to keep them alive and to protect them is not going to be available. There is then going to be no reason for the people in power to control them with force, as part of them will keep the rest of them in line. A human being who keeps themselves in line is likely to be seen as the best type of human being on the planet. Conclusion If someone doesn’t experience a strong reaction if their life is under threat or if they are being violated, there is something wrong. Their instincts are there to inform them when something isn’t right, just like red light appears on a dashboard when a car is running out of fuel. Now, this doesn’t mean that one has to be controlled by this part of them; what it means is that they pay attention to the information within them and allow it to influence their behaviour. One will then be operating as a whole human being and this is the last thing that the people at the top want.
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After I went to Stockholm, Sweden, I was reminded of how good it was to travel, and the experience was very similar to how I felt when I have travelled in the past. When I went away last time, I came back feeling alive.
In addition to this, I saw myself differently and a lot of my thoughts and feelings were not the same as before. This was when I had just been to Playa Del Carmen, Mexico, and I wanted to do more travelling after this. At First When I first got to Stockholm, I experienced a mild sense of discomfort and this was mixed with excitement. My mind was switched on and I wanted to find out more about where I was. I didn’t do much of my first day there as I hadn’t slept the night before. Still, I did have a quick look around part of the city, and then I ended up having a fairly early night. In The Now I woke up early the next day and had a look around the city, and I decided that it would be a good idea to do a bit of filming. I enjoyed walking around and going wherever I felt like going. If I was somewhere where I had been before, my mind wouldn’t have been as engaged and this would have stopped me from being as present. The fact that it was all new was what brought me fully into the present moment. Liberated This is very different to how I would be if I was walking around a town or a city near to me. I would have walked around somewhere like this numerous times and this would cause me to switch off. What also stood out when I was away was how I didn’t feel as though I had to behave in a certain way. It felt a lot easier for me to be myself and to express myself however I wanted to. A Powerful Conversation Whilst I was there I met up with a friend of mine called, Peter Karlen, and he spoke about how important our environment is when it comes to experiencing change. He said that the usual approach, when it comes to change, is changing what is taking place within us, and that it is a lot easier for change to occur when we change our environment. Through being away and in a new environment, it was only too aware of how powerful my environment was. I didn’t need to force myself to think differently or to behave differently; this was something that just happened. Back Home When I got back home, I didn’t take long until I started to go back into the role that I had played before I went away. It was as if I was no longer wearing a straight jacket when I was away and when I returned this started to change. But even though I started to feel different and have different thoughts, I was no longer the same person. I think this shows how powerful it can be to travel, and I would definitely recommend it to anyone who wants to freshen up their mind or transform themselves.
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When a man has only just met a woman, he may have the desire to find out more about what she is like. In this case, he will find her physically attractive but that is not going to be enough to seal the deal, so to speak.
If he just wanted to share his body with her, it could be said that it wouldn’t really matter what she is like. Yet, if he wants more than this, it is going to be a good idea for him to find out more about her. Prevention Is Better Than Cure Ultimately, it is going to be a lot easier for him to walk away at this point in time it will be for him to do this later. This is why this will be the time when he needs to find out as much as he can about her and then to decide if he wants to carry on going in the same direction. And in order for this to take place, he will need to think clearly and not get too caught up in how he feels. If he only listens to his feelings and sensations, this is not going to happen. A Short-Term Effect He could focus on how there will come a point in time when he will get used to how she looks, meaning other sides of her will stand out more. So, by thinking about what else she has got going for her, it will allow him to be more balanced. If he came to see that he would still like her as a person, even if she looked different, it could be a sign that he has found his match. That doesn’t mean that he should just switch off though, as he will still need to make sure that he doesn’t tolerate anything that he wouldn’t have tolerated in the beginning. Looking Back When a man behaves in this manner, there is the chance that he hasn’t always been this way. If this is the case, it will show that he has learnt from the past and is no longer willing to turn his mind off when he meets a woman. Due to the work that he has done himself and the changes that he has made as a result, it will be easier for him to function as a whole human being. This will greatly decrease the amount of drama that he will experience in this area of his life. Another Reality However, while this is how some men will respond when they meet a woman, there are going to be others who have a different experience. This can then be a time when they will be completely focused on how the woman looks and consumed by how they feel, along with the sensations in their body. It will then be as though they have seen a car that looks good and, though being so caught up in how it looks, they won’t take the time to see what it is like to drive. In both of these situations, they may find that everything else is fine; then again, they might not. Projection He can then believe that this woman is perfect in every way, but he won’t have taken the time to find out what she is actually like. This is likely to show that he has placed a lot of things onto the woman and this is why he can’t face reality. How he sees her can then have more to do with him than it has to do with her. Therefore, the man will have created a fantasy, and it might only be a matter of time before he ends up crashing back down to earth. Two Outcomes As times passes, he could find that she is very different to how he viewed her in the beginning, but that he still wants to be with her. Alternatively, he could find that she has not got a lot going for her. It will then be as though he was in heaven and now he has ended up in hell. At this point, he could feel as though he has been taken advantage of, but he will have been the one who didn’t take the time to find out more about her. A New Approach If a man finds that he has the tendency to put a woman on pedestal, it is going to be important for him to change his behaviour. When he meets a woman he likes, he can think about what she has got going for her apart from her looks. Along with this, he can look into why he projects so much onto a woman, thereby stopping him from being able to see her as a human being. What he may find is that the parts of himself that haven’t been developed are being projected onto a woman. A Closer Look His feminine side might not be very developed, and this will relate to the part of his nature that is nurturing, loving, and supportive. This then sets him up to see certain women as mother figures that are going to make him feel whole. Thus, when he has developed this part of his own nature, it will be a lot easier for him to see women as human beings. He will feel like a whole human being and this will allow him to think clearly. Awareness If a man can relate to this, and he wants to integrate his feminine aspect, he may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can take place with the assistance of a therapist or a healer. During this time, he will probably be developing self-love and letting go of the parts of himself that are not loving. What took place at the beginning of his life may be what is stopping him from being in touch with his feminine aspect, and this may have separated him from his masculine aspect.
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At the end of March, I ended up going to Stockholm, Sweden for a few days and this was somewhere where I had never been before. As a result of this, I wasn’t quite sure what to expect.
Having said that, what I did know is that it was going to be fairly cold and that it was supposed to be expensive there. One of the reasons why I went there was to see a friend of mine called, Peter. On The Ground Once I arrived, I came to see how cold it really was, but what made it easier to handle was that it wasn’t very windy. I hadn’t slept the night before as the flight was very early and this meant that I felt like a zombie when I got there. Part of me wanted to explore the city and another part of me wanted to sleep, yet I knew that if I didn’t have an early night I would be tired for the rest of the trip. So, I ended up going to bed early and waking up early the next day. A Moment of Inspiration When I was walking around the city the next day, I thought it would be a good idea for me to do a bit of filming. I thought that I could then share where I had been with my friends and the people who view my work online. After this, I ended up looking around the houses of parliament, the palace, and the old town, among other things. I had arranged to meet my friend towards the end of the day, so I was looking forward to see him again after so many years had passed. A Different Culture While I was at my friends place, his wife spoke about some of the things that are different about Sweden. Firstly, she said that people are generally not big on eye contact, and that looking at people can be seen as being rude. In addition to this, she said that people are more introverted there and that it was very different to America in this regard. When I went shopping with Peter for food, the prices didn’t seem very different to what things cost in a supermarket in England. Pros and Cons One thing that Sweden does have is high quality drinking water, and this is partly due to the fact that there are so many lakes there. The downside is that income tax is very high, but I guess that a lot of people believe that they get a lot in return. At the end of my time there, I met a woman who said some interesting things about what it is like when it comes to dating in Sweden. She said that women were the ones who did the pursuing in bars or clubs, not men. My Thoughts I’m not sure how true this is as I didn’t speak to anyone else about this and I didn’t go out in the evening while I was there. A lot of the women did seem to be fairly masculine, so it wouldn’t surprise me if this was something that took place in these kinds of environments. As for what was said about eye contact, I would say that it was no different to what it is like in England. Some people are comfortable with eye contact, while some people are not comfortable with it. An Enjoyable Trip Overall I had a good time there and I would be happy to go there again as soon as it gets a bit warmer. A lot has been said about the crime in Sweden, but Stockholm seemed to be fine. If you like old buildings, boat trips, finding out about what took place in the past and you don’t mind the cold, there is the chance that you would enjoy Stockholm.
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Although it would be easy to believe that the mainstream media exists to tell people what is actually taking place in the world, this is rarely what happens. Instead, this source of information has their own narrative that they impose upon others
Now, this is not to say that there is only one narrative in existence, as there are a number of different stories that are being told. What can play a part here is what side of the political spectrum a news organisation gravitates to. An Important Area One thing that the mainstream media likes to give a lot of attention to are the problems that women face in today’s world. They often talk about the so-called gender pay gap, the abuse that they receive offline and online, and how they are held back by men, amongst others things. What this then does is make some people to believe that all women have it hard and all men have it easy. Men can then be seen as perpetrators and women can be seen as victims; nothing more, nothing less. A Big Distraction This then keeps some people’s attention away from other issues and it divides a lot of men and women. If these men and women were to work together and stopped fighting each other, a lot more would be achieved. The trouble with this is that if men and women as a whole got on, it would be a lot harder to control them. If this was to happen, the people who are pulling the strings at the top would lose a lot of power – power that so many people unknowingly given to them. One Part of the World This source of information tends to ignore what is taking place in other parts of the world, and perhaps this is due to how badly women are treated in certain countries; focusing on what happens in these countries would show how trivial a lot of the problems are that some women experience in the west. Some of the things that have taken place in these countries for many, many years are now taking place in the west, and this is partly due to people bringing their way of life to the west and partly due to the west being too tolerant. For example, female genital mutilation (FGM) is something that is illegal in the UK, yet that hasn’t stopped this practice from taking place there. This is clearly something that violates women and girls, and is far worse than being whistled at in the street, for instance. Different Problems In England recently, one thing that was being spoken about was the abuse what women experience when they are whistled at or cat called. This was seen as something that men do when they hate women, meaning that is a ‘hate crime’. These issues, as well as others, have been seen as a reflection of how feminism has lost its way. Going from a movement that was about women’s rights, to morphing into a movement that is all about power and special treatment for women. Holding On Deep down, these types of feminists probably realise that they need to find new problems in order to justly their own existence. Their sense of who they are will be based on them being a victim - someone who has no control over their life. Therefore, if they were to let go of this identity and to see how well women have it in the western world, they might experience an existential crises. For someone like this to face reality and to see how well they have it, they would need to have a certain level of self-awareness. Self-Absorbed The challenge here is that the women who talk about how oppressed they are, along with other women, appear to lack self-awareness. Also, they are often so caught up with their own needs that they are not willing to empathise with others. It is then as though they should be working with a therapist as opposed to trying to change the world. As a result of this, not only do they create a bad impression, they also paint women in a bad light. Black and White A woman like this is happy to support the narrative that women are oppressed and men are oppressors, and it could be said that this shows how out of touch they are with reality. Maybe, what plays a part in their delusion is their position in society and how ‘privileged’ they are. The problems that men experience are often overlooked, and it can then seem as though women are the ones who are actually privileged in the western world. Women are given a platform to talk about their problems; whereas men are rarely given the same opportunity. A Clear Sign The fact that women are often seen as the only gender that has problems could be seen as a sign of how much control women have had for a number of decades. Their issues have dominated public discourse for so long that men’s issues have largely been swept under the carpet. It has been said that if you want to find out who is in control, you need to find out who you are not allowed to criticise. If a man criticises a woman, for instance, he can end up being called a misogynist, but if a woman criticises a man, it is highly unlikely that she will be called a misandrist. Conclusion There are plenty of women who are repelled by these kinds of feminists and it this is likely to show that they don’t see themselves as a victim. They might see what while women have problems, so do men. Ultimately, having problems is part of being human; it is not something that only one gender has to deal with. To believe that men have it easy and women don’t is a very childlike way of looking at the world, and this can take place when someone is mentally and emotionally undeveloped.
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That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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