Mental Health: Is It A Good Thing That Lady Gaga And Prince William Are Talking About Mental Health?20/4/2017
A few days ago, Lady Gaga and Prince William had a conversation about mental health. This was a time when the former spoke about her own challenges and the latter spoke about how important it is for people to open up, amongst other things.
A Mixed Response And as these two people are well-known, it has meant that this video has received a lot of exposure. There are plenty of people who are pleased that two influential people have come together to talk about such an important topic. On the other hand, there are people who didn’t respond to the video in the same way. But if they criticised the video, they may have ended up being criticised by the people who did warm to it. The Same Position If someone did appreciate the video, there is the chance that they have mental and emotional problems. But even though this is the case, it doesn’t mean that they feel comfortable talking about what is taking place within them. Or, if they do open up to other people about what is going on for them, it might be something that they find difficult. Therefore, regardless of if they cover up what they are going through or open up about it, this video will have had positive effect on them. It’s Ok What this comes down to is that someone can feel ashamed of what is going on within them, and this is something that these two people touched upon in the video. So, through hearing these two people talk about mental health problems, it might have allowed them to realise that they don’t need to feel this way. It is then as if these people have given them permission to accept what is going on for them, and to no longer see themselves as being defective. This shows how much of an effect people in these kinds of positions can have on others. Out In the Open It also shows how much of a difference someone can have on the world and that it doesn’t take an army of people to make a difference. If someone believes in themselves and takes action, there is no limit to what they can achieve. And if someone appreciated the video but they don’t have mental and emotional problems, it could be a sign that they have had them in the past, or they might know people who have them. It is then going to be in their best interest to help the people in their life who struggle to cope. A Different Experience But even if someone wasn’t impressed with the video, it doesn’t mean that they are mentally and emotionally at peace. They could be used to suffering from depression and/or suicidal thoughts, for instance. This could mean that they talk to people they know about what is going on for them, or they might prefer to keep it to themselves. And one thing that they might have thought about when they watched the video was that it is not enough to talk about mental health. No Better Off As far as they are concerned, this could be about as useful as talking about how hungry they are; this is not something that is going to change how they feel. There is also the chance that when they talk about how they feel, they end up feeling even worse. Thus, what this person needs is way to change their life, as opposed to simply talking about what is taking place for them. Until this happens, talking to other people about how they feel is not going to do anything for them. Another Issue Along with this, someone might find it hard to relate to Lady Gaga even though she says that she has mental health issues. While it is clear that anyone can have mental and emotional problems, it is going to be a lot easier for someone to handle life if they have plenty of money. Someone might believe that this is just another way for her to gain attention from people, and talking about mental health is certainly a way of doing this. Perhaps there is some truth to this, but who knows. Another Outlook It could also be said that through getting people to focus on their own mental health, it will distract them from what is taking place around them. So, instead of them looking into all the things in the world that are causing them to suffer, they see themselves as the problem. What they are going through is then ‘normal’, and not the result of living in a society that is completely dysfunctional. Talking about mental health is then no different to giving people plenty of entertainment, alcohol, or sports, for instance; it not only keeps them busy, it also stops them from trying to change what needs to be changed in the world. A Life Sentence And after watching the video, someone could come to believe that they will always have mental and emotional problems. This due to the fact that lady gaga says that what she is going through is a part of her and that’s ok. It is as though she has resigned herself to living in this way for the rest of her life. However, even though she has mental and emotional problems at this point in time, it doesn’t necessary mean that she can’t do anything about them. The Masculine and the Feminine Has Lady Gaga had any kind of therapy or healing? Does she live in a way that will stop her from making her mental and emotional health worse? These are questions that only she can answer. The feminine approach is to simply talk about a problem; whereas the masculine approach is to look for a way to solve a problem. So if talking about mental and emotional problems is the first step, the second step is to find ways to solve them. Conclusion Thanks to the internet, someone can look online for information on how to experience life differently. And when it comes to the solutions that are available in the mainstream for dealing with mental and emotional problems, they are often way behind the kind of solutions that are available elsewhere. Also, if someone doesn’t receive the kind of care that they need during the beginning of their life, it is going to be a lot harder for them to grow into a well adjusted adult. Ergo, if the people at the top really want to change the world, they need to make sure that children get what they need in order to develop in the right way.
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If one doesn’t want to do something, they might listen to what is taking place with them and speak up. However, there is also the chance that they will ignore what is taking place within them and simply go along with what someone else wants.
A Different Experience When it relates to the former, one is going to have a good connection with what is taking place within them. In addition to this, they will also feel safe enough to listen to what is taking place there. Yet, when it comes to the latter, they might not even be aware of what is taking place within them. But even if they are aware, they are not going to feel safe enough to pay attention to what is going on there. Point of Focus When one is in touch with themselves and they feel safe enough to listen to the information that is within them, they are not going to be completely focused on what is taking place externally. One will be able to pay attention to their inner world and their outer world. On the other hand, when one doesn’t feel safe enough to listen to the information that is within them, they can end up being completely consumed by what is taking place externally. It can then be normal for them to only pay attention to what is taking place in their outer world. Disconnected What is clear is that they are the only person who will know what is right for them; the people around them are not going to know. Even so, this is not to say that other people will always realise this. There are plenty of people in the world who are only too happy to tell other people what to do. Therefore, when one goes along with what other people want, they are going to miss out on the guidance that is within them. Enmeshed When this happens, one will be behaving as though they are simply an extension of other people. Their actions will be the result for what other people want them to do, or what they think they want them to do. This is likely to be what feels comfortable and so there will be no reason for them to change their behaviour. But if they were able to get in touch with how they feel, they might soon come into contact with a lot of pain. An Act If the people around them were to find out about how they feel, they could be in for a shock. This is because one could come across as happy and easy going, and this is going stop how they feel from coming to the surface when they are around others. Or, if they were to get worked up and to express how they really feel, they could end up feeling bad. Through feeling this way, they will soon go back to how they were before, and it might be little while before they lose it again. A Number of Outcomes When one has the tendency to do what other people want, there may be moments when this doesn’t cause them to be walked over. Yet, as this is likely to be something that rarely takes place, it might not matter. The moments when they have been taken advantage of are going to be the moments that fill their mind. This may mean that there have been times when they have been physically harmed and/or they may have been verbally abused on a number of occasions. Right Now If one was to think about what their life is like at this point in time, they may find that they are in a relationship with someone who walks over them. Along with this, they might work with people who also behave in the same way. It might not stop there though, as one could find that their family treat them in the same way. One is then going to be surrounded by people who don’t respect their boundaries, and this is going to make it hard for them to feel good about themselves. A Victim One way of looking at this would be to say that one has gradually be worn down by the people in their life, and this is why they are unable to say no and to stand their ground. Based on this, the only way their life is going to change is if the people in their life start to respect their boundaries. Another way of looking at this would be you say that they already felt worthless, and this is why they ended up coming into contact with these kinds of people. What will also support this outlook is if they are treated badly by their family. Where it All Began What took place when they were younger may have set them up to feel comfortable with being walked over. During this time, they may have been abused and/or neglected, and this would have caused them to feel worthless. And through being treated in this way, it may have caused them to disconnect from their aggression. So not only will they feel as though they deserve to be walked over; they won’t have the energy they need to do anything about it. Awareness In order for one to change their life, they will need to get in touch with their inherent value and to embrace their aggression. Once this has taken place, they won’t feel comfortable being walked over and, if someone tries to do so, they will have the strength that they need to do something about it. This is something that can take place with the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
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If one was to go on a date with someone, they might come across as though they are looking for a relationship. Thus, if the other person wants the same thing, this is going to have a positive effect on them.
Online Dating However, if these two people met through the internet, this is likely to be something that has already been made clear. And if the other person hadn’t said that this is what they wanted online, there is the chance that they wouldn’t even be on date. Now that they are together, it will give them the opportunity to get to know each other better, and to find out if they are compatible. As even if they believed that they had a connection beforehand, it doesn’t mean that this is actually the case. An Illusion Trough talking over the phone and over a screen, both of them could believe that they are going to get on really well. One of them could find that the other person is funny, and the other could believe that the other person is easy going, for instance. So now that they are together for the first time, both of them might find that it’s as if they are with someone else. This could cause both of them to feel let down, and as though they have been wasting their time. Another Outcome Alternatively, this could be a time when everything seems to go to plan; with them getting on like a house on fire. Once their first date has come to an end, they could soon find a time to get together again. But even if two people were to come into contact with each other in the real world, there is still no guarantee that their first date would be any different. For example, two people could meet on a night out and, when the met again, they might not have a connection. On A Different Page In addition to this, one of them might want to settle down with someone, and the other might not want to settle down at this stage in their life. This could be something that will become clear more or less straight away, or it might come out into the open once the date is over. It could be said that even if one of them feels let down, it won’t be because they were lied to. What it will come down to is that they had certain expectations and, as these were not met, it caused them to experience pain. Out In the Open In this case, one will have set themselves up to suffer as opposed to being taken for a ride by someone else. But regardless of whether they had expectations in place, at least they will be able to move on and to find someone who does want what they want. If one wanted to have a relationship and another person said that they wanted the same thing even though they didn’t, it would be far worse. In the short-term, it would be far easier for them to deal with. The First Step One could then go on a date with someone and they could believe that this is the start of something special. Not only do they want to share their life with someone; the other person also wants the same thing. This could be a time when they will take one step at a time, or they might even start to think about what it would be like to start a family. If one was aware what was really going on for the other person, they might soon end up walking away. An Act Yet, as the other person is covering up what is going on for them, there is going to be no reason for them to think otherwise. And if one was to talk to them about moving in together or having children, for instance, the other person could say that that’s exactly what they want. The days, weeks and months could pass by and, out of nowhere, the other person could leave them. This could then be a time when one will end up experiencing a lot of pain, and they could wonder what is going on. The End One could get in touch with them but they might not hear anything back, and this could cause them to think about if they actually meant anything to them. This is going to mean that they won’t be able to talk to them about how they feel; they will have to deal with the damage by themselves. At the same time, they might find that they hear from them again, and the other person could talk to them about why they left. And now that they are back, they could say that they are ready to have a relationship. The Same Story Now, there is the chance that what they are saying is the truth, and this time it will be different. There is also the chance that the same thing will happen all over again, and this person could have a number of people on the go. Therefore, not only is one being taken for a ride; they are leading a number of men/women on. If they were to look into why they are behaving in this way, they might not be able to understand why. Indirect Revenge What this can show is that this is someone who was treated badly by their mother/father, and this is why they go out of their way to harm men/women. When they were younger, they wouldn’t have been able to do anything about what was taking place but, now they are an adult, they have the ability to get their own back indirectly. When someone sees that the person they were with is in pain, it will probably cause them to feel good. But as the pain of what happened to them when they were a child is still within them, they won’t be able to change their behaviour. Awareness This is just one of the ways in which someone’s childhood years can have an effect on how they behave as an adult. What happened to them is all in the past and one is now an adult, but they are still being controlled by the wounded child that is within them. If one can relate to this and they no longer want to lead people on, they might need to work with a therapist or a healer. This will give them the chance to face the pain that is within them and to heal it.
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If one was to use social media, they are likely to find that some of their ‘friends’ come across differently to how they do in the real world. This could mean that someone they know will act shy offline but when they are online, they could come across as being outgoing.
Another Experience Along with this, one could notice that some of their friends don’t hold back when it comes to sharing their views online. If this was how they behaved in the real world, it might not stand out. What would make it stand out is if this was someone who spoke about things that they don’t usually talk about. One could end up being surprised by what someone ways, or it might not have much of an effect on them. Out of Control When someone they know shares their views, they could do it in a clear and concise manner, and it could take place without them losing control. This means that this is someone who is not going to come across as though they are being controlled by their emotions. At the same time, this might not always take place and someone they know could completely lose it online. One could then wonder what is going in, and it might make them question if they actually know the other person. Hidden One way of looking at this would be to say that it is going to be normal for people to behave differently when they go online. For one thing, they are behind a screen, and this makes it easier for them to express themselves. When it comes to the real world, it is not going to be possible for someone to hide behind a screen. And while they will be able to hide behind a mask, they are still going to be around people. Less Pressure Not only are they behind a screen when they use social media, they can also use it without needing to be around anyone. It can then be as if they are simply sharing their views on a screen and their views are not having an effect on anyone. But although it can seem as though there are no consequences to their actions, it doesn’t mean that this is actually the case. What they say online can ‘offend’ people, and it can have an effect on how their ‘friends’ see them. A Release When someone expresses how they feel online, they can find that they end up feeling better about themselves soon after. It can be as if they have let go of a weight that they have been carrying. Once this has taken place, they might not have the need to lose control online for a little while. However, there is also the chance that this is something that will take a place a few times a day. A Number of Options Someone can express how they feel when they are commenting on something one of their ‘friends’ has shared, or they can comment on a page, for instance. When it comes to the former, it could end up having a negative effect on their relationships. On the other hand, if they lose control when they are commenting on a page they have ‘liked’, it will be different. Nonetheless, what they say to other people online can be seen by their ‘friends’, so it can be just as bad. Something for Everyone When someone needs an emotional release, it is not going to be hard for them to find something to comment on. And if there is something in particular that gets a rise out of them, they will soon be able to find something. Once this has taken place, someone might find that they are able to go back to what they were doing before. Therefore, if they were unable to go online, they could find that they start to experience inner tension. Emotional intelligence One way of looking at this would be to say that what this shows that this is someone who doesn’t have healthy relationship with their emotions. There is the chance that they are not even aware of why they feel the way they do. And even if they are aware whey feel a certain way; they might not do anything about it. As a result of this, the only thing they can do to feel better is to have a go at people on social media. A Short-Term Solution This is going to allow them to feel better about themselves for a short while, but it is unlikely to change what is taking place in their life. There is then going to be no reason for them to change how they behave online. Time is going to pass and their life could get even worse, and this can then cause them to have an even greater need to release how they feel online. What can also play a part here is that someone can fear how people would respond if they were to open up about how they feel in the real world. A Common Outlook When someone expresses how they feel in the real world, they can end up being seen as someone who is out of control. And through opening up and being vulnerable, it can cause them to be seen as weak. Conclusion It is then not much of a surprise for someone to hide how they feel in the real world and to release how they feel when they are behind a screen. Through doing this, it can allow them to maintain the image that they have created in the real world. This doesn’t mean that someone has to continue to behave in this way; they can gradually develop a healthy relationship with their emotions. What this will then do is to allow them to do is to listen to how they feel, and to use the information that is within them to change their life.
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When one is in touch with themselves and they feel safe enough to express who they are, there will be no reason for them to put on an act. How they come across on the outside is going to match up with who they are on the inside.
Now and Then Or, if they do put on act, it is going to be something that rarely takes place. As a result of this, it is going to be a lot easier for them to handle the moments when they are unable to be themselves. There can be times when they are unable to maintain their sense of self, and other times when it is necessary for them to play a role. If their life was under threat, for instance, one could lose themselves momentarily, or if they were at work, they might have to act in a way that doesn’t reflect who they are. Relationships When one spends time with their friends, it will be normal for them to be themselves. Their behaviour will be governed by what is taking place within them, as opposed to what is going on externally. Now, this is not to say that one will lack empathy, and that they won’t be able to tune into what is going on for someone else. What it means is that they won’t end up losing themselves and acting as though they are an extension of someone else. An Important Ability One can then put themselves in another person’s shoes without having to completely absorb what they are going through. Through being this way, they can stay in their own body and not get drawn into another person’s experience. Is it then going to be a lot easier of them to assist someone, and they won’t end up taking on their problems. If one was to absorb what other people go through, it would be the same as one joining someone in a boat that is already sinking. An Individual When this doesn’t happen, there will be no need for one to get in the boat; they will be able to instruct them on what they can do to get out of the boat. And, as one won’t have the tendency to lose themselves around their friends, this area of their life is likely to be very fulfilling. One will be able to fulfil their need to be seen for who they are, and the positive feedback that they get from others will actually mean something. If, on the other hand they were playing a role, it wouldn’t mean anything. Boundaries What this is going to show is that one has good boundaries, and this is why they feel safe enough to be themselves. If this wasn’t the case, it wouldn’t matter if they were in touch with what is taking place within them. As one is not here to live another person’s life, it could be said that one will be living in the right way. However, while this can be seen as the ideal way to experience life, there are going to be a plenty of people who can’t relate to this. Another Experience When one can’t relate to this experience, it is going to mean that they are used to losing themselves around other people. This can be something that will take place no matter who they are around. One is then going to disconnect from their own needs and feelings, and they will end up playing a role. This could be a role that someone else wants them to play, or it could be one that they think another person’s wants them to play. Automatic This is not to say that one will think about what role they need to play before they meet someone, or that they will spend time rehearsing a certain role. The reason for this is that one is likely to end up playing a role when they are around others. Who they are will end up being covered up, and they will be nothing more than an actor. So, when they receive positive feedback from others, it might not have anything to do with who they are. False Empathy And as one is unable to maintain their sense of self around others, it could be normal for one to take on other people’s problems. When they are around someone who is going through a hard time, one could absorb what they are going through. It could then seem as though one is empathising with what they are going through; yet, it might be more accurate to say that one has simply merged with them. One lacks boundaries, and this is why they are taking on another person’s problems. Wide Open It is then not that one necessarily cares about what the other person is going through; it is that this is something that just happens. If they were to behave differently, it is likely to cause them to feel uncomfortable. Playing a role or taking on other people’s problems is then something that feels safe. If one felt as though it was safe enough for them to be themselves, there would be no reason for them to behave in this way. Confusion It might be hard for one to understand why they are experiencing life in this way. Nevertheless, what it can come down to is that took place during their early years. This may have been a time when were abused and/or neglected, and this would have stopped them from being able to develop in the right way. What would have felt safe would have been to play a role and to do what other people wanted. Awareness Through having these early experiences, there is the chance that one will be carrying a lot of trauma. And as they didn’t get the kind of care that they needed, they can see themselves as being nothing more than an extension of other people. If they received what they needed during this time, it would have allowed them to grow into an interdependent human being. In order for one to change their life, they might need to work with a therapist or a healer.
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One way of looking at today’s world would be to say that it is the age of being offended, and this is due to how a lot of people behave. While there are some people who are offended from time to time, there are others who are offended practically all the time.
When it comes to the former, it could be said that this is simply part of life and not something that can be changed. However, when it comes to the latter, it could be said that this is something that can be changed. Imperfect If, for example, the world was perfect, there would be no reason for someone to get offended. They would be able to live their life without coming into contact with anyone who would have a negative effect on them. In addition to this, there would be no reason for them to see anything online that they don’t agree with. One can then relax when they are in the real world and when they browse the web. Reality When one can see that there are always going to be things that they don’t agree with and they don’t allow these things to define their life, it could be said that they are behaving like an adult. This doesn’t mean that they wouldn’t change the world if they had the chance, but that they realise there is nothing they can do about it. Therefore, if they were to get worked up about it, they would be wasting their time and energy on something that they can’t change. And as one is not going to live forever, it could be said that this is a good approach to have. Stepping Back But when they come across something that causes them to experience a strong reaction, it doesn’t mean that they will allow their emotions to control them. This could be a time when they will reflect on why they feel this way. Through doing this, it will allow them to see if they feel offended because of what they have read, or if what they have been exposed to has simply triggered what is within them. What this will show is that one has a good level of self-awareness, and that they are emotionally intelligent. A Grey Area It could then be said that one will realise that there is going to be more than one way of looking at something. And this is something that they will be able to look into through having the ability to step back from the thoughts and feelings that are within them. So, instead of acting like a robot, one will be behaving in a conscious manner. If they were to do this and to see that it is about what is taking place within them, they will be able to take responsibility for what has taken place. Emotional Strength Yet, if it is due to what is taking place externally, they can look into what they can do about it. It might be clear what they can do about it, or they may find that there is a not a lot that they can do. What this can then show is that the part of their brain that regulates how they feel is going to be functioning in the right way. This is something that is going to play a big part in their ability to maintain their centre. Purpose Along with this, one is likely to have other things in their life that are far more important. This could show that they are passionate about one thing or a number of things, and this will stop them from being drawn into things that will waste their time. Through being so engrossed in their career, for instance, one is generally not going to allow what people say or do to consume them. This is then something that keeps them on the right track. A Different Experience When one has the tendency to be offended, they can believe that they should be able to live their life without being offended. But instead of looking into what is taking place within them, they can focus on what is taking place externally. It is then going to be down to other people to change, as they are going to be nothing more than an observer of what is taking place. There is then the chance that they will look for things that will offend them (and this can take place unconsciously). A Strong Reaction So, when one is offended by something, there will be how they feel through having this experience. At the same time, this can also be a time when they will get a boost from seeing themselves as being morally superior. One is then going to have the moral high ground through being offended, and there will be no reason for them to take a step back. This is then going to be something that is black and white, and they won’t need to see if there is another way of looking at what is taking place. Emotionally Unstable Through being offended by just about everything, it can show that one lacks the ability to regulate their own emotions. The part of their brain that performs this task can be out of action. As they are not mentally and emotionally stable, it is then going to be normal for them to be tossed around by the external world. And what can make it even worse for them is that they might not have a sense of purpose. Caught Up There is then nothing in their life to stop them getting distracted by what other people say and do. Their mind needs something to do, and as one is not supplying anything, it ends up creating unnecessary problems. Or, if their life does have meaning, it could come down to the fact that being offended has become the reason for their existence. Thus, if they were to stop themselves from getting caught up in what other people say and do, they might experience a deep sense of emptiness. Awareness If one can relate to this and they want to change their life, they might need to work with a therapist or a healer. This will give them the chance to develop their emotional strength and the ability to observe what is taking place within them. And through doing this, it will give them the opportunity to look into what will give their life meaning.
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While there are some people who are in touch with their anger, there are others who are out of touch with it. As a result of this, these people can end up coming across being radically different.
Full of Energy When it comes to the former, they can find it easy to stand their ground, and to say no when they don’t want to do something. This is going to stop them from behaving in a passive manner. There is then going to be no reason for them to focus on other people needs, and to do what they want. One will be in touch with their own need and feelings, and this is what will allow them to express their true-self. It Safe And the reason why they are able to behave in this way is going to be because they feel comfortable enough to do so. Speaking their truth is then not going to be something that will cause them to be overwhelmed with fear. This is not to say that one will always feel comfortable doing this, as there are likely to be times when it doesn’t happen. But as this will be exception as opposed to the rule, it is unlikely to be something that will bother them. Drained When it comes to latter, one can find that it is a challenge for them to stand their ground, and to say no when they don’t want to do something. This can then cause them to behave in a passive manner. One can be in a position where they focus on other people’s needs and feelings, and this will cause them to ignore themselves. This can mean that one won’t even be aware of what their needs and feelings are. It’s not safe If one was to reflect on why they behave in this way, they may find that this is what feels safe. They might wonder what it would be like to feel comfortable enough to live their truth. Still, this doesn’t mean that one will always behave in this way, and that they won’t have moments when they will listen to their feelings and needs. But as this is likely to be something that rarely takes place, it is going to cause them to suffer. Depressed One could spend a lot of their life feeling down and as though they can’t be bothered to do anything. The reason they feel this way can be the result of everything that has built up within them over the years. There will be the anger that they don’t allow themselves to experience, and there will be the emotional pain they have experienced through being this way. If one was to think about their experience, it could be as if they are carrying a heavy weight. In Control When one is in touch with their anger, there is going to be no reason for their anger to build up within them. In most cases, they will be able to take action when they get angry about something. It is through feeling angry that one will be able to realise that something isn’t right; whereas if they were unable to experience anger, they wouldn’t know. This is then the same as how a light will appear on a car dashboard when a car is low on fuel. Information If this light didn’t appear on the dashboard, it would be a lot harder for people to know when it was time to refuel. What this shows is how one’s anger is not good or bad; it is simply there to let them know when something isn’t right. So, when one can listen to how they feel, it is naturally going to make their life a lot easier. If they ignore how they feel, they will be ignoring something that is there to make it easier for them to protect themselves and to fulfil their needs. Out of Touch Yet, when one is generally out of touch with their anger, there is likely to be a lot of anger that has built up within them. As they have the tendency to behave in this way, this is not going to be much of a surprise. This is then going to stop one from having the ability to realise when something isn’t right; they won’t be aware of the information that is within them. It is then going to be normal for one to be walked over by others and to feel depressed, amongst other things. Out of Control However, if one was to get angry about something, they could end up coming across as though they are possessed. They could verbally or physically attack someone, and it could be hard for other people to understand what has come over them. The smallest thing could then have caused one to behave as if something really bad has taken place. What this will show is that all the anger that has built up over the years has ended up coming to the surface. The Fallout Through losing control, one could end up harming something or someone, and this can cause them to believe that they have behaved in the right way up until this point. One can feel extremely guilty and ashamed of what they have done. This can then cause one to behave in the same way as they did before, and it might only be a matter of time before something like this happens again. In order for one to experience life differently, they will need to face the very thing that they are trying to avoid. A Closer Look When one doesn’t feel comfortable with their anger, it can be due to what took place when they were younger. If they got angry during this time, they might have been abused and/or neglected, and this would have meant that it wasn’t safe for them to get angry. This would have been a time when one would have had to disconnect from their anger and the other feelings that they experienced. Along with this, there will also be the pain that they haven’t dealt with in their adult life. Awareness If one wants to change their circumstances, they might need to work with a therapist or a healer. This will give them the opportunity to change what they believe about their anger and let go of the emotional pain that has built up within them.
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When one has boundaries, they will be able to say yes and no, and this is because they will safe in their own body. And through being this way, it will allow them to express their true-self.
Protection What this comes down to is that one is inherently vulnerable, and this is why it is so important for them to protect themselves. This is not to say that everyone in the world wants to take advantage of them. However, even if someone doesn’t have the intention to do this, they could still harm them. The reason for this is that if one doesn’t let someone know that they don’t want to do something, there can be no reason for them realise that they are doing anything wrong. Two Experiences So, one will need to speak up if one of their friends was to ask them to do something and this was something that doesn’t interest them. If they don’t do this, they could end up wasting their time. And if a stranger was to ask them to do something that didn’t interest them, they might need to walk away. If they went along with the other person, they could end up being harmed in some way. Standing Out Through being able to respond in this way when they don’t want to do something, it will allow them to be themselves. If they were unable to do this, they would have to go along with what other people wanted. One would then have no other choice than to disconnect from their true needs and feelings, and to develop a false-self. Going along with others will be what feels safe, even though this will cause them to be walked over. Embracing Life When one has boundaries, it will allow them to embrace life, and it will make it easier for other people to embrace life. The reason for this is that it will stop them from having the tendency to walk over others. This comes down to the fact that they will know where they begin and end, and where others begin and end. If this wasn’t the case, it would be normal for them to try to walk over others. Another Part Other people would then be seen as being nothing more than an extension of themselves, and there would be no reason for them to respect their boundaries. This is then no different to how one’s arm is another part of them and how they don’t need to ask for permission before they use it. It is then clear to see how vital boundaries are when it comes to having healthy relationships with others. And while it is important for an individual it have boundaries, it is also going to be important for a country to have boundaries. Security In the same way that one will need to stand their ground, a country will also need to stand their ground. When this takes place, the needs of the people who live in the country will generally be taken care of. For thing, these people will have the need to feel safe in their own country, and to be protected if they were to be attacked by another country. It will then be possible for the country to shine, to so speak, and to express its greatness to the world. An Identity Thus, when people visit this country, they are likely to see that there are things they can do and things they can’t do. It will be down to them to adapt to where they are, as opposed to expecting the people around them to accommodate their needs. This is then no different to how one would behave if they were to go to a friend’s house. If one was to go to a friend’s house and to act as though they were in charge, it would be incredibly disrespectful. A Different Country The alternative would be for a country to allow the people who go there to do what they want, and this would naturally have a negative effect. If this was to happen, it would be the same as one being taken advantage of in their own house. And there will no reason for this country to try to walk over other countries; it will clear that this would be the wrong thing to do. In the same way that it would be wrong for one to walk over others. One Country If one was to think about someone in their own life who tries to walk over others, they might soon see a face, and if they were to think about a country that behaves in the same way, they might soon have one in mind. One country that might come to mind is America, and this is somewhere that is often held up as an example for other countries to follow. A lot has been said about how there are a lot of people who live their illegally, and how a wall needs to be built to change this. Based on this, it could be said that they need to draw the line and to stand their ground. Two Extremes It could then be said that this is a country that is being victimised by people from other countries. This is then the same as one being walked over by practically everyone they know. However, even though this is taking place, this is the same country that has the tendency to walk over other countries. This is then no different to one having moments in their life when they are walked over and moments when they walk over others. A False Sense of Superiority So not only is this a country that doesn’t understand where they begin and end and where other countries begin and end, it could be said that they see themselves as being better than just about any other country on the planet. Through being in an elevated position, they believe that they have the right to do whatever they want. This is then no different to how someone can be out of touch with their own humanity (and healthy shame) and believe that they are better than anyone else. There is then no need for them to respect other people’s boundaries. In Charge And through being this way, this country is then the only one that can change the world for the better. It is down to them to police the world, and to deal with the countries who will cause problems. This is then no different to someone who believes that they always know best, and that it is down to them to fix the people around them. Other people are incapable and they are the only ones who have what it takes. Conclusion The way this country behaves has caused a lot of problems in the word, and it has also had a big effect on their own country. Still, it would be inaccurate to say that everyone who lives in America supports what is taking place. When it comes to what is taking place, it could be said that it is the result of the people who operate behind the scenes. These are not people who care about human life, or having peace on earth.
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When one spends time with people who treat them well, it is going to be easier for them to feel good about themselves. This is then no different to how it will be easier for their body and brain to function in the right way when they eat well.
Close Relationships It could be said that the most important thing will be for their friends and family to treat them in this way. This comes down to the fact that one is likely to spend a most of time around these people. However, while this would be the ideal, it could be said that life doesn’t always work out this way. As even though one could have friends who treat them well; it could be a different story when it comes to their family. Out of Their Control One way of looking at this would be to say that this is simply part of life and not something that one can do much about. One has the ability to choose their friends, but the same can’t be said when it comes to their family. So, if their family don’t treat them well, they might have no other choice than to keep their distance. Naturally, this is going to depend on if these people are willing to change their behaviour. The Priority This is not to say that one will have to cut them out of their life, as they might just need to limit the amount of time they spend around them. Something like this could be hard for them to handle, at least in the beginning. It would then be down to them to decide if they want to spend time around people who will wear them down, or if they want to put their own wellbeing first. If they don’t do this, how they are treated by these people will have an effect on other areas of their life. At Work what will also be important will be for one to be treated well when they are at work, and this is due to the amount of their life that they are likely to spend their. One could find that they spend more time around these people than they do around anyone else. Therefore, if they were treated badly here, there is a strong chance that it would affect every other area of their life. Not only that, one could find that this stops them from being able to perform at their best. A Different Experience If, one the other hand, one is self-employed, this is not something that is going to affect them. One is then going to have far more control when it comes to who they spend time with. There is the chance that one is used to spending time around people who treat them well, and this is then not going to be an area of their life that causes them problems. If one was to think about how long they have experienced life in this way, it could be since the beginning of their life. The Right Nutrients Through being supported by the people around them, it will be a lot easier for them to achieve their goals. These people will be right behind them, and this could make them believe that they can do just about anything. There are then going to be the moments when they are not in a good place, for whatever reason, and these people will be there to help them in any way they can. And as one is around people who are like this, they are also likely to treat others in the same way. Interdependent What this all comes down to is that one is not their own island; if they were, it wouldn’t matter who they spent time with. Yet, as how one sees themselves and what they believe is possible is more or less defined by the people they spend time with, it shows how important it is to be around the right people. Thus, when one spends time with people who don’t treat them well, they are going to be undermined. It could then be said that the sooner they get away from these kinds of people the better their life will be. Verbal Abuse When one is around these people, they could spend a lot of time putting them down in one way or another. One is then going to feel bad in their presence and they will feel bad even when they are not around them. Due to this, one is unlikely to feel good about themselves, and this is going to make it harder for them to do anything about it. Through being worn down, they might believe that they just have to tolerate this kind of behaviour. What’s going on? There is the chance that one felt good about themselves until they started to spend time around the people who are verbally abusive. If this is the case, one is nothing more than a victim and the people around them are the perpetrators. At the same time, one may have already felt bad about themselves, and this is why they ended up being drawn to these kinds of people. So although these people treat them badly, it might be no different to how they treat themselves. Going Deeper The fact that one puts up with this kind of behaviour is then a clear sign that they don’t value themselves. And the reason they don’t value themselves can be due to what took place when they were younger. This may have been a time when they were abused and/or neglected. Through being treated in this way, it would have caused then to believe that they were worthless, and this would have set them up to feel comfortable with abuse. Awareness Ultimately, there is nothing wrong with them, but until they deal with what is taking place within them, their life is unlikely to change. The assistance of a therapist or a healer may be needed here.
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When someone wants to find out about what is taking place around them, there is the chance that they will look towards the mainstream media. This is because this source will be seen as being trustworthy and reliable.
And when one wants to find out about what is going on, they could end up turning their TV on. This can then mean that they will sit back and believe everything that this source tells them about what is going on in the world. A Number of Ways Alternatively, they might prefer to go online and to see what is taking place on a certain website. Or, if this is not the case, they may have a number of different sites that they tend to visit. And, if one has some kind of device, they are going to be able to do this no matter where they are. Therefore, it is going to be a lot easier one to take this approach than it will be for them to watch TV. No Excuses It could then be said that if one doesn’t know what is taking place, it will come down to the fact that they don’t want to know. What they need to know is always going to be a few finger taps away. Naturally, there are going to be moments when one is too busy to see what is going on a around them, but this is going to be different to having absolutely no interest in what is taking place. So compared with their ancestors, one is going to be in a far better position when it comes to what is taking place in the world. Staying Up To Date And while one can have the desire to find out about what is going on in the world, they can also have the need to be informed about something in particular. For example, if an election is about to take place or if a country is being attacked, one might not want to miss out on anything. What is taking place in the world could end up consuming them, and it will then be a challenge for them to think about anything else. Or, one could put it to one side when they are at work, for instance, and end up thinking about it when they finish. The Truth But if the mainstream media didn’t exist, it would be a lot harder for them to find out about what is actually taking place around them. It would then be down to them to find out for themselves. Naturally, this would take a lot of time and energy, and it would be down to them to work out if something is true or not. Based on this, one should be grateful that the mainstream media exists. In The Middle One way of looking at it would be to say that the mainstream media simply passes on what is taking place in the world. This is then similar to how if one needs something delivered to their house from a supermarket, a van will bring it over. The van won’t do anything to the food; it will simply allow them to have what they need without having to leave their house. This van, like the mainstream media, is there to make their life easier. Let Down However, if something was to happen to the food during this journey, it would be normal for one to get angry. What would also cause problems is if they ended up with food that they didn’t even order. If something like this was to happen when it comes to the mainstream media, it would be the same as this source passing on information that doesn’t reflect what actually took place. Or, it would be the same as them creating their own news. Back To Reality Yet, if one believes that the mainstream media only exists to inform people, they might believe that this would never happen. They could believe that there is no reason for them to deliberately misconstrue what takes place, or to talk about things that haven’t even happened. At the same time, they might realise that this source of information doesn’t always talk about what is actually taking place. But as for this source of information creating their own news, this might be too hard to believe. A Completely Different Purpose So if the mainstream media doesn’t exist to inform people, why does it exist? It could be said that this source of information has their own agenda, and the people behind the scenes are the ones who define what this agenda is. At times, this will mean that they will put their own spin on what has taken place and, at other times, it will result in them talking about something that has even taken place. If one had a friend who treated them in this way, it would be clear that they don’t have their best interests at heart. The Ultimate Betrayal The very source that is supposed to exist to keep the masses informed is secretly taking them for one hell of a ride. Fortunately, there are plenty of people who are only too aware of how duplicitous this source is. What has made a big difference here is the fact that people can now look towards the alternative media. This is not to say that this source of information can always be trusted, but it makes it easier to see when the mainstream media is lying. Conclusion When it comes to who controls the mainstream media, there are a number of different people and organisations that could be mentioned. Nevertheless, what is clear is that the people behind this source of information are not interested in a peaceful world. So, if one does pay attention to this source of information, it will be vital for them to question what they are told. If they don’t do this, they will be making it easier for the people behind the scenes to implement their grand plan.
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