In an ideal world, perhaps every child would receive the level of care that the need in order to develop into a well adjusted adult. Still, this is not to say that genetics don’t play a part; what it comes down to is that is that it will be a lot easier for someone to develop in the right way when they receive the right nutrients, so to speak.
Two Parts It would be inaccurate to say that what one is like as an adult is purely the result of how they were treated as a child. What is often said is that one’s temperament and a large part of their intelligence is the result of their genetics. Even so, if one is naturally aggressive, for instance, it will be a lot easier for them to deal with this side of their nature if they are given the right guidance. Instead of using this energy in a destructive manner, one will be able to channel it in the right way. A Big Difference One can then use this energy to become highly proficient at a certain type of sport, or they can push themselves forward in their career. The raw force that is within them is not bad, but if it is not used in the right way it will create a lot of problems. Not only could one end up harming other human beings, they could also resort to a life of crime. Consequently, one is not going to be valuable member of their society, they will be an expensive burden. The Other Side There is also the chance, of course, that one would internalise how they feel. One is then not going to harm other people, but they will end up harming themselves; it will be normal for them to be depressed. Alternatively, one could be someone who is highly sensitive, and if they are given the right care this won’t have to be a problem. Through receiving the right responses from their caregiver’s, they won’t need to feel ashamed for being this way. Protection This will also allow them to develop boundaries, and it is then going to be a lot easier for them to function. It won’t be possible for them to handle as much stimulation as the average person, but this won’t stop them from being able to accept themselves. And through being able to stand their ground, they won’t need to say yes to things that will drain them, or to be around the wrong kinds of people. Being this way is then going to be an asset as opposed to a liability. Back to Reality There are people who will have had their needs met on most occasions, others who had them met from time to time, and those who rarely, if ever had their needs met. It would be easy to say that the people in first category will be well adjusted adults, the ones in the second will be worse off, and those in the third will be in a very bad way. However, it is not always this black and white, and it could be said that one’s inherent nature plays a part in this. What also can’t be overlooked is that there is what happens and then there is how one responds to what happens. A Common Theme It is not uncommon to hear about people who had everything they needed and yet they still went off the rails. What can add weight to this is when they have come from a ‘good’ background. The trouble is that even though someone may appear to have come from a good background, it doesn’t mean that this is the case. At times, the image that a family presents to the world is radically different to what takes place behind the scenes. Rising Up What is not as common is to hear about people have been able to thrive even though they had a very challenging upbringing. When this happens, it could show that they had at least one person who showed them love, and they could be very robust. Something within them would have pushed them forward and some of the people who they came into contact with would have supported them. They may even have had many hours of therapy or healing work. Survival One of the challenges of being abused as a child is that one might not even realise that they were abused. They can feel bad about themselves and have mental and emotional problems, for instance, but that doesn’t mean that they will be able to connect the dots. As a child, one would have believed that there was something wrong with them, and this response would have been seen as the only way for them to survive. The alternative would have been for them to see that there was something wrong with their caregiver/s, but this would have caused them to experience far too much pain. Control By believing that there was something wrong with them, it would have caused them to believe that they could change their caregiver/s behaviour. If they faced up to the fact that there is very little, if anything, they can do and that their caregiver/s is the one with the problem, it would have overwhelmed their system. One then had to create an illusion to survive, and while this made it easier for them to survive as a child, it will cause them to suffer unnecessarily as an adult. There is then something inherently wrong with them and they will have to suffer in silence. Stepping Back And even if one came to see that they were abused as a child, it still doesn’t mean that they will be able to reach out for support. Intellectually, they can see that they did nothing wrong, but due to the toxic shame that is within them, it can cause them to create their own prison. This shame will have permeated their whole being, and one will fear what might happen if they were to talk about what took place when they were younger. Ultimately, one will be carrying something that doesn’t belong to them. Awareness There is nothing wrong with who they are, but until the trauma within them is dealt with, it is going stop them from being able to truly understand this. When one works with a good therapist or a healer, they will be given the support that they need. They will probably be talking to someone who was also abused, or has worked with people who have gone through a very similar experience. This will enable the therapist/healer to see that there is nothing inherently wrongs them.
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It could be said that that are moments in everyone’s life when things don’t go to plan, or something ‘bad’ happens. This is just part of life and not something that can be changed.
A Different Reality However, while there will be plenty of people who will be able to relate to this, there are going to be others who experience life difference. Consequently, they are not going to have the odd challenge to deal with; their whole life will be a challenge. If they were to look back on their life, this could be how it has been for as long as they can remember. Due to what one has experienced, they could believe that the whole world is against them. Support When it comes to the people who they spend time with, they could also experience life in the same way. Spending time with these people is not going to change their life, but it will make it easier for them to tolerate what is going on. For example, one could talk about what has happened to them that day and, once they have finished talking, the other person could talk about what they have been through. Their time together is then going to be spent talking about each others problems. A Helping Hand One may also have people around them who experience life differently, and they could try to change their life. So, if one has a problem, one of these people could do whatever they can to help them. The kind of help that they offer them is likely to depend on what the problems is. If one has just been treated badly by someone, for instance, they could offer to go and have a go at this person. All Areas And regardless of what area of their life they focus on, they are likely to become aware of something bad that has happened to them recently. If they were to think about their career, they may start to think about how badly their boss and/or their colleagues treat them. There may have been taken advantage of at work on a number of occasions, and this might not be the first place where this has happened. The last job they had might have been just the same. Relationships If they are in a relationship with someone, this could be an area of their life that takes a lot out of them. One could be with someone who verbally and/or physically abuses them, and this is going to make it hard for them to feel good about themselves. Instead of being with someone who lifts them up and nourishes their soul, they will be with someone who undermines them. Yet, even if one was to end the relationship, it doesn’t mean they would end up with someone who is different. The Same Old Story The last person they were with might not have treated them any better; if fact, they might have treated them ever worse. And if they were to go back ever further, they might see that they have all been the same. Through having these experiences, one might believe that it would be better for them to stay single. This might work for a little while and then they could end up being draw to someone else. A Victim One way of looking at this would be to say that other people have got it in for them, and that there is nothing they can do about this. They are powerless and the only thing they can do is to put up with what is taking place. And based on how they experience life, it could be said that it will be normal for them to have this outlook. But even though this can be seen as the truth; ultimately, it is nothing more than a perspective. Two Parts If one was told that they are not a victim and that they have played a part in what has happened to them, it could cause them to experience rage. In their eyes, this will be seen as something that is out of their control. Nevertheless, even though this is not how the conscious part of them wants to experience life, it doesn’t mean that the unconscious part of them is the same. At a deeper level, this is likely to be what feels comfortable. Conflict Part of them wants one thing and another part of them wants something else, and the part that has the most influence is the part that they are unaware of. And as they are unaware of what is taking place at a deeper level, it sets them up to see themselves as a victim. One is then an observer of what is taking place and there is nothing that they can do about it. What can allow them to understand why this feels comfortable is for them to look into what took place when they were younger. A Deeper Look How they feel as an adult is likely to have been how they felt during their early years, and this may have been a time when they were abused and/or neglected. At this time, one would have been a victim - they wouldn’t have been able to do anything. This would have caused them to believe that they are worthless and that they don’t have any control over their life, and it world have stopped them for developing boundaries. And although being treated in this way would have caused them to suffer, it would have been what felt safe. Awareness Thus, the reason why they are attracted to (and attract) people who victimise them is because this is what feels safe. The part of them that feels comfortable with being treated in this way is not concerned about whether something is healthy or unhealthy; it is only concerned about whether something is familiar. When something is familiar, it is associated as being what is safe by the ego mind. This is why self-awareness is so important, as it will give one the ability to change their life; without it, one is nothing more than a slave to their conditioning. If one can relate to this, and they want to change their life, it might be a good idea for them to work with a therapist or a healer.
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If one was in a position where they wanted to start a new relationship, they might decide to join an online dating side. This could be seen as the best way for them to find someone to be with.
No Shame In the past, online dating was frowned upon, and this was partly because it was radically different to meeting someone in the real world. Along with this, it was seen as something that someone would use if they were a bit awkward. Nowadays, it is seen as a normal way to meet someone; in fact, meeting someone in the real world is often seen as something that is a bit strange. This shows how much the world has changed. Part of Life However, if one wasn’t around when online dating wasn’t available, this is going to be something they have grown up with. This is then going to be no different to growing up in an environment where there has always been running water. Consequently, there will be no reason for one to feel bad when they try to find someone online. And, even if they were around when it wasn’t possible to find someone this way, they can still do so without feeling bad about themselves. In The Same Boat There is also the chance that a number of their friends will be using a dating site to find someone, or they may have used one in the past. This can cause them to feel more at ease with what they are doing, and it will give them something to talk about. If one of their friends is with someone who they met online, it could fill them with hope. This person will have achieved what they want to achieve, and they might believe that the same thing will happen to them. A Better Way When one uses online dating, they can believe that it will be better than trying to find someone in the real world. For one thing, they won’t need to leave their home to find someone, and this will save them a lot of money. Not only that, they can search for the kind of person who they want to be with, and then they can get to know them before they meet them in person. It could then be said that this will save them a lot time. More Choice If they were to go to a bar, for instance, there are only going to be so many people there; but when they are online, there will be hundreds of people for them to speak to. Based on this, it should be a lot easier for them to find their ideal match. In the beginning, they might believe that it will only be a matter of time before they will be in a relationship. But as time passes, a number of things might take place that will cause them to wonder if online dating is any good. No Guarantee For example, even though one could come to believe that they are speaking to the right person when they are talking to them online, it doesn’t mean that they will have the same outlook when they meet them offline. When they meet them for the first time, they could feel as though something isn’t right, or they might not get on with them. One could then wonder how this could have happened, and they might try to meet someone in the real world instead. Alternatively, they could put it down to bad luck and look for someone else. One Step Back But before one has even met someone, they will have to get to the point where a time and a place are arranged. This is something that could take a few days, or it might take a number of weeks. After speaking to someone for a few days or weeks, the other person could end up going silent on them. One can then feel as though everything is going to plan and, all of a sudden, it will be over. Confusion If they had become attached to this person - or the idea that they had formed about them - it could cause them to experience mental and emotional pain. The first thing they could to do to think about what part they have played. Through taking this approach, they may find that they said something inappropriate, for instance. At the same time, they may come to see that there is nothing wrong with what they said to them. Unavoidable The trouble with online dating is that one can only go by what someone says, and everything that they say could be a lie. Therefore, even though someone will come across in a certain way, it doesn’t mean that this is a reflection of who they are. Also, there are a myriad of reasons as to why someone would join an internet dating site. While this could be a way for them to find someone, it could just be a way for them to prop up their self-esteem. Conclusion It could then be said that there will be no reason for them to take it personally; if they do this, they will suffer unnecessarily. The person they were talking to may have gone back with their ex, found someone else who was more appealing to them, or perhaps they had enough of online dating, among other things. What this shows is that while it is easier to use online dating than it is to go out into the world, it doesn’t mean that it will increase one’s chances of meeting someone who is right for them. When another person goes silent, it will be best for one to let go and to find someone else.
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While there are some people who are on alert from time to time, there are others who are more or less always on alert. And even though these people will have a radically different experience on this planet, it doesn’t mean that they won’t come into contact with each other.
A Passer-By So regardless of how one experiences life, they are likely to have moments when they walk by someone who is having a different experience. This is something that could take place where they are out shopping, or when they on holiday, for instance. There is also the chance that they will speak to people while they are at work, who are different. In fact, some of their friends may also experience life differently, and one might not even realise this. Opening Up If they were to talk about how they experience life, it might be hard for one of their friends to understand them. This friend might not know what it is like to spend most to their life in a watchful manner, or this might be the only thing they now. But if one felt the need to open up, it is likely to show that their life is not going as they want it to go. Therefore, one is more likely to open up if they find it hard to relax around others. Hidden At the same time, when one experiences life in this way they can end up keeping it to themselves. The reason for this is that if one doesn’t feel safe around others, they are not going to want to say anything that could make it even worse. One could believe that it is not a good idea for them to talk to people about their experience, as it could cause them to suffer even more. And if they are surrounded by people who are abusive, this is not going to be much of a surprise. Another Factor Yet, in order for one to get to this stage, they would need to be aware of how they experience life. Another way of looking at this would be to say that if one is unable to take a step back and to reflect on what is going on for them, there will be no reason for them to reach out. This will be how life is and they will do everything they can to make sure that they don’t displease others. In their eyes, this will be something that they have to do; it is not going to be something that they can do anything about. The Ideal When one is able to relax around others, it is going to allow them to express their true-self. There is going to be no reason for them to focus purely on what is going on around them, and this will then allow them to tune into what is going on within them. Through being able to focus on what is going on within them and what is going on without, it will be a lot easier for them to function. Not only will they be physically separate from others, but they will also behave as though they have their own needs and feelings. In The Moment If something was to happen, and one needed to defend themselves, for instance, they would be able to take action. Other than that, they will be able to be present, and this is going to enable them to respond as opposed to react to life. This will stop them from creating unnecessary problems, and it will save then a lot of time and energy. If they have something to say, they will say it; there will be no need for them to keep their thoughts to themselves. One Focus On the other hand, when one is unable to relax around others, it is going to stop them from being able express what is taking place within them. They will have disconnected from their true-self and a false-self will have been created in its place. Their main priority will be to make sure that they don’t have a negative effect on the people in their life. One is then going to do everything they can to appease others, and this is naturally going to take a lot out of them. A Powerful Ability Due to the amount of time they have spent focusing on the moods, behaviours and facial expressions of others, there is a strong chance that they are very good at reading people and working out how they will behave. It is then not going to be hard for them to behave in a way that will please people. Even so, there are still going to be moments when this doesn’t work, and this is likely to have a big effect on them. Another person could end verbally abusing them, and one could end up being overwhelmed with fear. The Norm The trouble is that even if one is not around someone who is abusive, it might not stop them from walking on egg shells. Thus, even if one is around someone who is not interested in controlling them, it is not going to matter. Consequently, one is going to be accustomed to feeling anxious, and other people could describe them as someone who is always on edge. They won’t be able to let go and to be spontaneous. A Deeper Look What this is likely to show is that one’s childhood years were a time when they had to walk on eggs shells in order to survive. This would have been a time when it was essential for them to tune into their caregiver/s needs and wants. If they didn’t do this, they may have been abused and/or neglected. It is then to be expected that they would experience life in this way as an adult. Awareness Through being brought up in this kind of environment, one is likely to be carrying a lot of trauma. And until this is dealt with, it is going to be a challenge for them to connect to their true-self, relax into their body and to attract people who are healthy. The assistance of a therapist or a healer may be needed here.
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If one was to walk through a puddle, and another person was standing close by, there is the chance that both of them would get splashed. So even though one won’t have gone out of their way to do this, it would have happened anyway.
Part of Life In the same way, what is taking place within their inner world is going to have a negative effect on some of the people who they come into contact with. It is then not going to matter if they don’t want to have this effect on others. What could make it easier for them to accept this is that there are going to be others who will have the same effect on them. Ultimately, what is taking place within them has to go somewhere and, when it is not dealt with, it can end up being projected onto others. One Step Further And not only can one walk through a puddle and splash others, they can also jump into a puddle with the intention of splashing others. One will then have gone out of their way to do this and it won’t have just happened. This is then the difference between projecting the odd issue on someone else, and placing just about every issue that is within them onto others. When this takes place, it doesn’t mean that one is going out of their way to cause harm; what it means is that their behaviour will have a much bigger effect. A Big Difference One is not going to be able to see what issues they are placing onto others and then to take responsibility for what shows up. Instead, certain things will press their bottoms and they won’t be able to look into why this is. There could be one thing that always annoys them, or they could be a number of things that keep showing up in their personal reality. But even though they are the common denominator, they will see themselves as being nothing more than an observer of their reality. It’s All Random Perhaps one spends a lot of time with people who have anger problems and/or they could be very judgemental. This is only going to be one part though; the other part is that one will attach certain traits to people. Consequently, it can be a challenge for them to see someone as they are; what will be normal is for them to see their own reflection. This will be the ‘negative’ part of them that they have disowned. Out of Touch It is then not that one is judgemental and/or has anger issues, for instance; it is that the people in their life these have issues. One could also end up perceiving people online in this way, regardless of if there is any evidence to back it up. Their life would change if they were willing of face up to what is taking place within them and to deal it. The trouble is that when one projects their issues onto others, it can be more or less impossible for them to see what is actually taking place. Held In Place For one thing, one is likely to be disconnected from what is taking place in their body, and they could have people in their life who are the same. Thus, even though these people are going to be just as out of touch with themselves, they are going to make it harder for one to change. Another thing that can play a part here is when one projects their own issue/s onto someone else and this person gets defensive or acts as though it does relate to them. This is exactly how one wants them to behave. A Closer Look One will have created a web and this person will have walked straight into it - they won’t end up being eaten, but they may end up feeling bad about themselves. It can all depend on how long someone is around them for. When one has the tendency to project their issues onto others, this is likely to be a way for them to feel better about themselves. At a deeper level, they could feel completely worthless, and this then stops them from being able to own their own baggage. Boundaries This can also show that one doesn’t know where they begin and end, and where others begin and end. Through being this way and not having a strong sense of self, it is going to stop them from being able see what belongs to them and what doesn’t. The reason they feel worthless can be the result of what happened when they were younger, and what took place here can be the reason why they lack boundaries. This may have been time when they were abused and/or neglected, and this would have stopped them from being able to develop into a well-adjusted adult. The Other Side When one is on the receiving end of this kind of behaviour, it can end up taking a lot out of them. The first thing they might to is to try to defend themselves, and to say that they don’t have anger issues or lack compassion, for instance. But what they could find is that this doesn’t have much of an effect; if anything, it might make things even worse. One can then hope that the other person will change their behaviour, but this might not take place. Stepping Back When one has someone like this in their life, it is going to be different to if they only see them every now and then. If they do spend time around someone like this on a regular basis, it will be a good idea for them to look into what is taking place within them. Perhaps they don’t value themselves and also lack boundaries, and this then causes them to put up with bad behaviour and to take on other people’s issues. If they did value themselves and they had good boundaries, they wouldn’t be pulled into these kinds of dramas. Awareness When one is in the company of someone who is projecting their issue/s onto them, it will be vital for them to make sure that they don’t get pulled in. The key will be for them to maintain their centre, and breathing deeply will be in important part of this. It might then be necessary for them to get away from this person, and unless they are willing to look themselves in the mirror, it might be best for them to cut their ties within them. If this is something that one experiences on a regular basis, it might be a good idea of them to work with a therapist or a healer.
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If one is not currently in a relationship, they may find that this doesn’t have effect on how they see themselves. It is then still going to be possible for them to feel good about who they are, and this is going to make it easier for them to function.
A Whole Human Being Ultimately, one is not going to feel as though they are missing something and that they need to be with someone in order to be complete. Consequently, one will be able to enjoy being in a relationship but they need to be in one. Through being this way, they are not going to have a strong need to be with someone; they will be able to appreciate their own company. One will be living their life and they won’t have put it on hold until they start a new relationship. Boundaries What this is likely to show is that one has a strong sense of where they begin and end, and where other people begin and end. One is not going to see themselves as an extension of other people. Not only will one be physically separate from others, they will also be emotionally separate from them. This is what will allow them to feel like a whole human being, and it can then be normal for them to be mentally and emotionally stable. Individuation When one experiences life in this way, it can be a sign that they received what they needed to receive when they were younger. Their developmental needs would have been met, and this would have allowed them to develop in the right way. This is then going to be how their life has more or less always been, and one is not going to know what it is like to experience life differently. One would have started of as a dependent human being and they would have grown into an interdependent human being. Another Experience At the same time, there is also the chance that one hasn’t always been this way and that they know what it is like to experience life differently. One is then going to be able to empathise with people who are still experiencing life in this way. So if they were to come into contact with someone who is going through what they have been through, they will be able to support them. Still, this doesn’t mean that the other person will be able to accept what they hear, as they might not be ready to hear what they have to say. Two Parts What this comes down to is that it is not always a simple as just telling someone something; they have to be ready to take it in. When they are ready to change, they will be able to apply what they have been told. There are then the people who want to change but can’t find what they need, and there are those who are given the right information but who have no interest in using it. This is why it is a waste of time for one to try to assist those who don’t want to be assisted. A Radically Different Experience When one only feels good about themselves when they are with someone, they are likely to have a strong need to be in a relationship. It then might not matter who they are with as long as they are with someone. This could mean that they have the tendency to end up with people who are abusive, or they might just end up with people who are not a good match for them. Either way, this area of their life is not going to be very fulfilling. Incomplete If they were to step back from what is taking place and to tune into what is taking place within them, they may feel as though something is missing. They are going to be an autonomous human being, but it will be as if they need to be with someone to feel complete. One is then not going to be an interdependent human being; they will be a dependant human being. Therefore, even though one has their own body to experience life with, it can be as if they are nothing more than an empty shell. Emotional Regulation Their need to be in a relationship is not going to be the result of their need to connect and to share their life with another human being; it will be a way for them to control how they feel. Being with someone will elevate their mood, and this is going to cause them to give their power away. On some level, the people they end up with will probably realise how they feel about themselves. One could have an inferiority complex and the people they end up with could have a superiority complex. A Deeper Look Their younger years may have been a time when their developmental needs were not met, and this may mean that they were abused and/or neglected. This would have stopped them from being able to form a strong sense of self. Their inherent value wouldn’t have been acknowledged and they would have experienced a lot of pain/trauma. One is then going to look like an adult, but they will feel like a dependent child, and this is then why they only feel valuable when they are in a relationship. Awareness If one can relate to this, and they want to change their life, it might be necessary for them to work with a therapist or a healer. This will give them the chance to develop boundaries and to connect to their inherent value, amongst other things.
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On one side of the spectrum there is total responsibility and, on the other, there is total irresponsibility. And while it might sound as though the ideal will be for one to be on the left side of it, it is not going to be this black and white.
Pros and Cons This is then no different to their being a time to do and a time to be; this is going to be far better for their wellbeing. Yet, as taking action is often seen as being better than just being, it can be hard for someone to realise this. When it comes to this dynamic, taking responsibility is often seen as being good and not taking it is often seen as being bad. But it is possible for someone to be in a position where they take on too much. Weighed Down In this case, one is not going to run away from what takes place in their life; they are going to face up to it all. It is then not going to matter whether they need to do this or not, as they will act as though it is up to them to put something right. Through behaving in this way, they could feel as though they have the weight of the world on their shoulders. Naturally, this is going to take away a lot of their energy and it will end up having a negative effect on others. Enabling One could believe that they are having a positive effect on others through behaving in this way, but this is not always going to be the case. Instead of focusing on what is their responsibility and letting others deal with what is theirs, they will be taking on what doesn’t belong to them. This is then going to stop others from dealing with the challenges that arise in their life, and one is then doing more harm than good. Nevertheless, if they don’t take the time to step back, it is going to stop them from realising this. The Cause On the surface it can seem as though one is a selfless human being, but this is going to be nothing more than an illusion. For one thing, what is clear is that they have the need to control others. Taking on what doesn’t belong to them is then an indirect way for them to influence another person’s life. At a deeper level, this may show that they have a fear of being abandoned, amongst other things. The Benefit Thereby, through having people in their life who don’t take responsibility, they are less likely to be left. One is then going to do everything they can to make sure that these people continue to behave in the same way. One will be acting like a parent and the people around them will be acting like their dependent children. This is going to stop these people from growing and one will stay at their current level of emotional development. The Other Side What is clear to see is that when one doesn’t take responsibility, their life is not going to be very fulfilling. When something doesn’t go to plan, it will be normal for them to blame someone else. Therefore, no matter what happens to them, they are not going to be able to face up to what has taken place. So instead of looking into what part they have part in what has taken place, they will end up pointing the finger at someone else. A Different Experience Or, if this is not what takes place, there could be certain areas of their life where they are happy to take responsibility. When it comes to their career, they might see that they are playing a part in what take place. However, one could have a completely different outlook when it comes to their relationships. This could be an area of their life where they see themselves as an observer of what does or doesn’t occur. Another Area Alternatively, the one area of their life that they don’t take responsibility for could be how they feel in any given moment. As far as they are concerned, what takes place within them could be seen as something that is out of their control. One could then be around others or they could be reading something online and what arises within them will be attributed to what has been said. This can then cause them to blame someone or something for how they feel. A Trigger It is then going to be irrelevant as to whether this is actually the case as they won’t be able to take a step back and to reflect on what is taking place within them. If they were to do this, they may find that something has been triggered within them. What has been said won’t have caused them to feel as they do; it will just have brought to the surface what was already inside them. But if they are unable to detach from how they feel, they won’t be able to see this. Stepping Back When one doesn’t take responsibility for how they feel, it is likely to show that they lack self-awareness. In addition to this, it can also illustrate that they are unable to regulate their own emotions, and this is then going to stop them from being able to operate as a whole human being. So just like the person who doesn’t take responsibility for anything, one is likely to feel powerless and as though they have no control. What took place when they were younger may have played a part in this. Awareness This may have been a time when they were abused and/or neglected, and one would have been completely powerless during this time. One is then going to look like an adult but they can feel like a traumatised child. If one can relate to this, and they want to change their life, it might be a good idea for them to work with a therapist or a healer.
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