If someone was asked about how people can suffer mentally and emotionally, they could end up talking about depression. This could be because they have suffered from it themselves, or it could be something that one of their friends has experienced.
However, there is also the chance that they haven’t suffered from it and neither has anyone they know. What this could then mean is that they have heard about it in the media, for instance, and this shows that it is no longer something that is completely overlooked. Mental and Emotional Health This is not to say that mental and emotional health is given as much attention as physical health; what it comes down to is that it is gradually being given the attention that it deserves. And as this hasn’t been the case for so long, it is to be expected that it is not going to change overnight. One of the reasons why it has been overlooked for so long is because it is not always possible to see when someone is suffering mentally and emotionally. On the other hand, when someone is suffering physically, there is a greater chance that other people will realise. Acceptable Along with this, someone may also find that they don’t feel the need to hide what is taking place for them. And through being able to open up, it can be easier for them to get the support they need. Yet when someone has a mental and emotional problem, it can be normal for them to feel ashamed of what is taking place. As a result for this, they can hide what is taking place, and it can then cause them to suffer in silence. Progress This is why it is so important for the work that has been done to continue, as this will allow more and more people to realise that they don’t need to be ashamed of what is taking place within them. There will then be less chance of someone suffering in silence, and this is because they will feel more comfortable reaching out for support. And a by-product of all this that as more people become aware of mental and emotional problems, they won’t always need to reach out for support. For example, if someone is in a position where they are suffering but they don’t realise that they don’t have to experience life in this way, someone else can point this out to them. Society Whereas when society as a whole is uninformed about mental and emotional health, it can be easier for someone to suffer even if other people know about what is taking place for them. For example, if they were to talk to someone who does understand what they are going through, they could tell that there it is just part of life. This can then show that the person they have spoken to is not aware of what someone can do to change their life, and it is then not possible for them to support them. What this can show is that they are simply lacking the right information. Antidepressants And if they were to pay a visit to their doctor, they could end up being put on drugs, and while this might take the pain away, it is unlikely that this will enable them to develop a greater understanding of themselves. One way of looking at the current approach would be to say that this is just the beginning, and as time passes, mainstream society will have a different outlook when it comes to dealing with internal challenges. This is not to say that drugs are always given to people, as they can end up having cognitive behavioural therapy and/or practicing mindfulness. And while these options can be the difference, they might not get to the bottom of what is taking place. Anger However, while someone could take drugs if they are in a position where they are suffering from depression, they might not do this if they have anger problems. Instead, they might end up having anger management counselling, or they could be told that they need to think differently, for instance. One on hand, they could be in a position where their anger gets out of control from time to time, and on the other hand, this could be something that takes place on a regular basis. During this time, they could come across as out of control, and other people could describe them as rude or hostile. Power Yet even though their anger is having a destructive effect on their life, they may find that it allows them to feel powerful. Therefore, on the outside they can seem as though they are out of control, but on the inside, they can feel as though they are in control. Still, regardless of how they feel, it will be important for them to settle themselves down; if they don’t, they could end up casing even more problems for themselves and others. But if one was to settle themselves down or to let go of their anger, they could end up feeling worthless. Toxic Shame When one feels worthless, it is likely to be a sign that they are carrying toxic shame, and this is an inner experience that can cause someone to emotionally collapse. So as a way to avoid feeling worthless and to stop themselves from internally collapsing, they can end up getting angry. This will allow them to rise up and to feel a sense of empowerment, and in order to maintain their sense of empowerment; they will need to stay angry. If they don’t, they might soon come crashing down. A Deeper Look The reason they are carrying toxic shame could be due to what has happened in their adult years, or it might go back to their childhood. If it goes back to their childhood, it could mean that they were abused and/or neglected. Awareness What this shows is that it might not be enough for someone to deal with their anger, as it could be nothing more than an effect. If this is the case, it will be important for someone to reach out for the support of a therapist and/or a support group. This can be a time where they will be dealing with trauma and grieving unmet childhood needs.
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If one wanted to find out about what their friends have been doing, there is a strong chance that they will use social media. The primary reason for this is that it is likely to be the easiest option.
And when one goes online, they might only need to scroll down their news feed to get an idea of how their friends have been spending their time. Alternatively, one could call their friend or use their phone to send them a message, and they could even end up meeting them in person. Time However, if they were to choose one of the options above, it would end up taking them a lot longer. And while they could have plenty of time on their hands, this might not be the case. Also, when one goes on social media, they don’t someone else to answer their phone, reply to their message, or to meet them in person, the only thing they need to do is to go online and to see what has been taking place. A Few People Now, this is not to say that everyone they know will be on social media, as there could be a few people they who don’t use it. In this case, one will need to get in touch with them the old fashioned way. But due to how popular social media is, one is likely to find it is possible for them to stay in touch with most people through using it. And as long as they have some kind off device, they can stay up to date with what their friends are doing no matter where they are on the planet. Multitasking And because of this, one can also go online whilst they are doing others things, and this means that it doesn’t matter how busy they are. Another way of looking at this would be to say that one can multitask. For example, one could be at working and during this time, they can quickly see what their friends have been sharing. Once they have done this, they can carry on with what they are doing. Busy Thus, no matter how busy one is, they should be able to see what their friends are doing. Along with this, one will have the chance to let their friends know that they are paying attention to what they are doing. This is something that can take place through one ‘liking’ what their friends have shared, or they can leave a comment. One could also go one step further and send them a private message. The Reason When it comes to what approach they take, it can all depend on what it is that a friend has shared. For instance, if they were to come across a picture, they could end up ‘liking’ it, but if they came across something more personal, they might send them a message. One could also look through a friends profile in order to see what they have been doing, and if they haven’t shared anything for while, they could leave a comment on their wall. It could be said that sending someone a message would be more personal. At A Distance Having said that, if one only wants to find out what they have been doing, it might not matter if they write on their wall. This could also be a sign that one doesn’t know them very well, and so it can be easier for them to take this approach. But if one does know them, this could mean that they still want to keep their distance, and if they were to message them, they could believe that they will end up getting too close to them. There could be a number of reasons why they have this outlook, and one could also find that while they are happy to message someone, they have no interest in meeting them in the real world. Friends This shows that even though one can be ‘friends’ with someone online, it doesn’t mean that they see them as a real friend. And the same could be said for some of the people who one sees as their friends online. If they were to go through their friends list and to make a note of the people that they would call upon if they needed help, they may find that there is only a few people who they could count on. So while one can be in a position where they could have hundreds or even thousands of ‘friends’, this is likely to be nothing more than an illusion. Another Illusion And while can believe that they can stay up to date with what their friends are doing through using social media, this is not always going to be possible. The reason for this is that not everyone shares what they have been doing online, and even if they do, it doesn’t mean that it matches up with reality. This is because it is easy for someone to create a false life online, and unless one is aware of what has been taking place in their life, they could end up being fooled. Yet even if someone doesn’t create a false life, it doesn’t mean that the life they share online always matches up with the life they lead offline. Conclusion If one wanted a rough idea of what their friends have been doing, it might be a good idea for them to use social media. But if one wanted to find out what their friends have actually been doing, it might better for them to send them a message, or they could call them up and then meet them in person.
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While there are some people who experience deeper connections with others, there are others who don’t. This means that the interactions that they do have with others will generally be surface level.
One way of looking at this would be to say that they will be on the side of a swimming pool; they will be looking at the pool, but that will be a far as it goes. Whereas when one has deeper connections with others, they will be in the pool, so to speak. Connected And through having deeper connections with others, there will be less chance that one will feel lonely. This is because they will be sharing who they are with people who care about them. The connection that one has with others will then allow them to feel connected to life itself. These kinds of connections are likely to be one of the few things that bring true fulfilment to their life. Missing Out Therefore, if one doesn’t experience life in this way, it could be said that they will be missing out. And unless they open up to others, it is not going to be possible for them to experience life differently. What this comes down to is that one can’t experience the same level of fulfilment as they would through opening up to others by buying things or through simply sharing their body, for instance. This is not something that can be replaced by something else. Avoidance However, even though one will be missing out through experiencing life in this way, it doesn’t mean that they will realise it. Instead, one could do everything they can do avoid experiencing deeper connections with others. On one hand, they might not reveal how they feel or what is taking place for them, and on the other hand, they could keep a distance from the people who do. But if they are with someone who does open up, they could soon change the subject. Empathy In this case, it will be clear that they have no interest in empathising with what the other person is going through. This could mean that they stop themselves from connecting to how they feel, or it might be something that just doesn’t happen. So through behaving in this way, there is a strong chance that they spend time with people who are the same as them. This is not to say that one will consciously look for these kinds of people, as they could just end up coming into contact with them. By Design Yet, it would be inaccurate to say that this is a random process, as they will be drawn to them because they are an energetic match. The people who are not a match for them will be the ones who have the need to experience deeper connections with others. At the same time, this doesn’t mean that one won’t come into contact with them; what it means is that that will be as far as it goes. They could come cross them in a social setting and they could say a few words to them, but that could be all there is to it. No Interest Based on how they behave, it would be easy to say that one doesn’t have the need to experience intimacy. The only thing they need to have is surface level interactions with others and that is just as fulfilling. And if someone said to them that they are missing out through experiencing life in this way, they could end up disagreeing with them. Or it might not even have an effect on them, and the conversation could soon veer off in another direction. Emotionally Disconnected If one is disconnected from how they feel, they can end up being out of touch with their need to experience intimacy. As a result of this, there is going to be no reason for them to experience deeper connections with others. One could find that simply being around other people and talking about surface level things is more than enough. And when it comes to their interactions with the opposite sex, it might only be about two people sharing their body. Sexualized For example, one could find that even though they are out of touch with how they feel, they are only too aware of their need to be sexual with others. The reason for this is that one’s emotional needs can end up being sexualized Thus, instead of being in touch with how they feel and sharing these feelings with others, these feelings will end up increasing their sexual arousal. And unless one realises what is taking place, they could come to believe that they simply have a high sex drive. Lonely But while one can have sex as a way to fulfil their emotional needs, they can also be in a position where they won’t even feel cut-off from others. The reason for this is that if one is out of touch with how they feel, it won’t be possible for them to feel lonely. And if they were to experience this, they could find a way to distract themselves from what is coming up to the surface. This could mean that one will end up throwing themselves into their work, or something similar. What Happened? When one is emotionally disconnected, it can be due to what has happened in their adult years or what took place during their early years. If it relates to their adult years, it could be a sign that a relationship came to an end and instead of processing the pain, they disconnected from their feelings. But if it goes back even further, it could mean that one experienced a lot of pain during their childhood years, and disconnecting from their feelings may have been the only way for them to handle what took place. This could have been a time where one had a caregiver who was abusive and/or they may have been neglected. Awareness So if one an relate to this and they want to get back in touch with how they feel, it might be necessary for them to reach out for external support. This can be provided by a therapist and/or a support group.
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Although relationships are based on give and take, it doesn’t mean that this is something always takes place. Instead, one can be in a position where the majority of their relationships are out of balance.
As a result of this, one can find that they give far more than they receive, and this can then cause them to feel as though they are being taken advantage of. And it could be said that it is to be expected that they will feel this way. Feedback Their feelings are there to provide feedback, and if they were to ignore this feedback, they would be setting themselves up to suffer unnecessarily. So it will be important for them to pay attention to how they feel. However, even though this would be the sensible thing to do, it doesn’t mean that one will pay attention to how they feel. Along with this, they could also overlook other people’s behaviour. Normal In this case, it could be a sign that one has become accustomed to being around people who are self-centred. This is not to say that they are happy about what is taking place; what it means is that it is what is normal. On one hand, it will cause them to suffer, but on the other hand, it could be just how life is. This is then going to be seen as the only option they have, and if they were to come across people who experienced life differently, they could believe that they are different to them. A Victim Through having this outlook, it is not going to be much of a surprise if one feels like a victim. Their life is not going to be very fulfilling, but they are going to believe that there is nothing they can do about it. Yet even though one can feel this way, it doesn’t mean that they will allow others to see how they feel. When they are around other people, one could act as though everything is fine. Overlooked But even if one was to express what was taking place for them, it is unlikely to have an effect on the people they are with. For one thing, they are too concerned with their own needs to think about someone else’s needs. And if one was to point out what was taking place, they could dismiss what they are saying and they could even criticise them. But if they do listen and take in what is being said, it might not have a lasting effect on how they behave. The Spotlight When one spends time with someone who only thinks about their own needs, they could find that they always talk about themselves. Or if this doesn’t happen, they could be the ones who are always talking. And one does talk, it could be to ask the other person about their life. The spotlight will then be on them, and this will allow them to be pleased about what is taking place. More Important What this then shows is that they will believe that their needs are more important, and this is why they don’t need to listen to what one has to say. In fact, they might not even care about what they have to say. Yet if they were to listen, it could b nothing more than an act and it will then go in our ear and out of the other. Therefore, they may act as though they care, but it is nothing more than an illusion. One-Sided Along with this, they may also expect one to do things for them, and they won’t even think about doing things for them. But if there are moments when they do things for them, it might only be because they want something from them. For example, perhaps they have something to say and as a way to get them to listen, they will invite them over. During this time, they can have no interest whatsoever in what one has got to say, and if one was in a similar position, they might say they are too busy. Stepping Back When one is used to spending time with people like this, it would be easy for them to believe that there is nothing they can do. It is then not that they are playing a part in what is happening; they are simply an observer. However, if one didn’t feel comfortable with what is taking place, they would no longer experience life in this way. On one level, one can feel angry about what is taking place, and at a deeper level, they can feel as though they don’t deserve to have their needs met. Ashamed Through feeling this way at a deeper level, it causes them to feel comfortable with people who ignore their needs. The way other people respond to their needs is then no different to how one responds to them. And the reason one believes they don’t deserve to have their needs met can be because they feel ashamed of them. Having needs is then something that will cause them to be rejected and abandoned. Early Years Having needs is part of being human, and this means that there is no need for one to feel this way. What this is likely to show is that one’s needs were overlooked during their early years, and this then set them up to believe that there was something wrong them. During this time, one may have had to take care of their caregivers needs instead, and it would then be normal for them to believe that other people’s needs are more important. Awareness In order for one to change how they experience life, it will be impotent for them to change with they believe. Along with this, they may also have some emotional work to do, and they could also be carrying trauma. The assistance of a therapist and/or a support group may be needed here.
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When one uses social media, they can have one thing in mind or a number of things. For example, one might use it to send someone a message, or they could use it to share an update.
In this case, they are going to have one thing in mind and then they could come off it. However, even though one can have one thing in mind, it doesn’t mean that they won’t look through what other people have shared or look at what is ‘trending’. On The Way What this comes down to is that is that one can come across these things before they send massage or share a status. So just like one can stop at a few shops before they reach their destination, they can come across a few others things before they do something on social media. One can have a quick look at what is taking place in their ‘friends’ lives and in the world before they do what they need to do. Yet through having this option, they may find that they get distracted from time to time. Saying Up To Date One the other hand, one can use it because they want to find out what their ‘friends’ are doing, and this means they won’t be on there to do anything in particular. They could have a few minutes to spare or a few hours. And while one could do something else once their time has run out; they might end up staying on there for longer than they intended to. As a result of this, they may find that they are unable to do something that they had planned to do, or it might not matter. The News Along with this, one could also use it because they want to find out about what is taking place in the world. Through looking at what is ‘trending’, one can believe that they are staying up to date with what is taking place in the world This is not to say that they will want to find out about the kind of news that is in a paper or on a TV channel, as they may want to find out about what is happening in the entertainment world. In fact, this could be what they believe is the news, and everything else could be seen as being insignificant. Their Priority Yet even if it is not something they see as being insignificant, it might not be their priority. The kind of news that interests them could be what certain celebrities are doing and what films are coming out, for instance. But if one does want to get a general understanding of what is taking place, they could still look through what is ‘trending’. There will then be no need for them to watch the news on TV or to read a paper, as all the information they need will be online. The Same News If one was to take a step back and to look into the kind of news that is available on social media and then to look at what is being covered by the mainstream media, they are likely to find that it is the same news. One way of looking at this would be to say that this is due to the fact that they only cover the things that matter. Another way of looking at it would be to say that social media is another way to the mainstream media to condition people. The primary difference is that one doesn’t need to watch TV or to read a paper in order for this to take place; they only need to have a device. Attention Thus, they no longer need to put in the effort to gain ones attention; the only thing they need is for one to have device and to use social media. And in today’s world, it is more a case of who doesn’t use it than who does. Along with this, one can use social media throughout the day, and this means that it is a lot easier to condition them. On one hand, this can happen directly through one reading about what is happening, and on the other hand, this can happen indirectly through one just being aware of what is ‘trending’. Exposure This is then similar to how one can end up buying something after they have seen an advert. They might not know how good it is, but it could stand out next time they go to buy something. And when it comes to what is ‘trending’, one’s mind will pick up what is mentioned, and this can end up having an effect on their outlook. For instance, if one was asked about what they think of something that is currently taking place in the world, their answer could be defined by what was ‘trending’ on social media. The User Now, it could be said that what is ‘trending’ on social media is influenced by the people who use it, and there is no denying this. However, what this shows is that the majority of people who use social media still spend a lot of time consuming what the mainstream media is providing. Therefore, the kind of information that people are exposed to is still being defined by those who have defend it for many, many years. Along with this, it has also been said that social media doesn’t allow certain information to appear. Apathy And while it can be seen as a good thing that one can be kept up to date about what is supposedly taking place in the world when they go online; it can also cause them to become indifferent. Through being exposed to the news on a consistent basis and having no connection to it, as a result of looking at a screen; it can soon lose its meaning. And once they have seen something, there is the chance that it will soon be replaced by something else. Or one can simply scroll away and look at something else, and this can cause them to forget about what has taken place. Conclusion It would be wrong to say that social media is to blame here, as one can end up being apathetic through spending a lot of time watching the news or reading a paper, for instance, when one is constantly exposed to things that they usually have very little control over or things that are traumatic, it is normal for them to zone out in order to stop themselves from feeling hopeless and overwhelmed. The trouble is that what is considered to be news is generally negative, and this can set one up to believe that they can’t do anything about what is taking place in the world. However, while it can seem this way, this doesn’t mean that this is the truth. We can all make a difference in the world, and in order to realise this, it might be necessary for one to cut down on the amount of news that they consume. This will allow them to feel on one hand and to protect their ability to feel on the other.
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If one was to tell someone that they are leaving their job or a relationship, for instance, there is a strong that they would know what they are talking about. When they think about what one is doing, they might imagine them saying goodbye to their colleagues or walking away from the person they were with.
Through being in this position, there is the chance that they will be able to empathise with them. Along with this, one may also be told that they are there for them if they need their support. Normal It could be said that it will be normal for one to receive these kinds of responses, and this is because they are talking about something that most people can relate to. As it is so common, one may also find that someone they know is having a similar experience, or they may have been in the same position a short while ago However, if one was to tell someone that they were leaving something or someone and they didn’t understand, it could be because they are not very old. Or it could mean that the person they are talking to speaks another language. Support When one can talks about something and other people understand what they are talking about, it is going to make their life a lot easier. And while other people can understand them when they talk about these kinds of things, this is not always going to be the case. Now, this is not necessarily going to be due to the fact that they don’t understand what it means to leave something or someone. What it can come down to is that they don’t understand how it could happen. Their Body This is the kind of response that one can receive if they told someone that they keep leaving their body. They could also say that they are unable to get in their body. Someone could tell them that it is not possible for them to leave their body, as it is part of them. Having said that, they might know what they are talking about, but if not, they might ask them to talk about their experience. The Experience However, even if someone doesn’t believe that it is possible for them to leave their body, it is not going to change ones experience. When one leaves their body, it doesn’t mean that they will actually be stepping out of it. What it is likely to come down to is that they will disconnect from it, and this means they won’t be aware of their body. The only thing that one is likely to be aware of is what is taking place in their mind. Looking Down As a result of this, they won’t feel as though their body is a part of them; they can see their body as being separate. Another way of looking at this would be to say that their attention will be in their mind. It is then not going to be possible for them to feel grounded in their body, and they could feel as though they are floating. For that reason, it can be a challenge for them to feel at peace and to relax. An Observer When one is in their body, it will allow them to experience life; whereas when they are in their mind, they will end up observing life. Therefore, when one leaves their body, it will stop them from being able to embrace life. So while they will be aware of what is taking place in their mind, they won’t be aware of what is taking place in their body; if they are, they might only be aware of their body’s sensations. This can then mean that the will be out of touch with how they feel, and they might now know what their needs are either. Unaware Yet even though someone can be aware of what is happening, they could also be in a position where they are not. Thus, there will be no reason for them to talk about what is taking place in their life, as it will be the only thing they know. At the same time, this doesn’t mean that their life won’t be affected by the fact they are disconnected from their body. The difference is that one won’t be aware of why they are experiencing life as they are. Common Problems One could say that they experience a lot of anxiety and that they rarely know what they need or how they feel. They could also say that they generally feel ‘ungrounded’ in life, and this could cause them to engage in certain activity’s to bring them back down to earth, so to speak. And through being out of touch with their body, it could also mean that they are either underweight or overweight. The reason for this is that they won’t know when they are hungry, and so they won’t eat when they need to or they will eat when they don’t need to. From Time To Time But regardless of whether one realises that they are disconnected from their body or not, they will have moments when they can connect to it. On one side, this could be something that happens naturally, and on the other side, it could happen through consciously doing something. If it happens naturally, it could be something one experiences when they are in a certain environment. When it happens through consciously doing something, it could mean that one is having massage or doing yoga, for instance. What’s going on? The reason one is unable to stay in their body can be because they don’t feel safe being in their body. So just like one would run away to protect themselves; they can leave their body to achieve the same outcome. What this can mean is that one is boundaryless, and this is why they are unable to stay in their body. If they were to connect to their body, they would feel exposed, and in order to avoid feeling this way, they will go into their head. A Deeper Look The reason one experiences life in this way can be due to what took place during their childhood. This may have been a time where they were abused and/or neglected, and there may have been someone who got too close to them. These experiences would have stopped one from being able to develop boundaries, and it will then be normal for one to be wide open at an energetic level. And unless this changes, it is going to be a challenge for one to stay in their body. Awareness If one can relate to this, it will be important for them to reach out for the right support, and this can be provided by a therapist and/or a support group. This will be a time where one will be dealing with trauma.
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In today’s world, there are plenty of people who follow a celebrity or a number of them, and it is easier than ever before for this to take place. This is primarily because of the internet and how one can follow them on social media.
Before this option was available, one would have had to buy a paper or to watch TV, for instance. But nowadays, they can keep up to date with them without even needing to get out of bed. A Number of Ways This can take place through reading a status they have shared or through watching a video that they have uploaded. And the kind of videos they share can all depend on what they are famous for. For example, an actor may share trailers for the films they are in and behind the scenes footage. A singer, on the other hand, could share music videos or concert performances, among other things. A Strong Connection And while these videos will have an effect on them; what is likely to have a bigger effect is when a celebrity shares a personal message. Through watching these kinds of videos, one can feel as though they know them. A celebrity is then not going to be seen as ‘just another celebrity’; they could be seen as an important part of their life. There is also the chance that they could be obsessed with one or a number of them. Normal But even if one did spend a lot of their time thinking about someone who is in the public eye, it doesn’t mean that they will look into why this is, and this is because of how obsessed society is with celebrities. As a result for this, the people they surround themselves with could also be in the same position. It is then not something that needs to be looked into; it is simply part of life. Now, this is not to say there is anything wrong with being inspired by someone, but if it ends up taking over one’s life, it could lead to problems. Views And while a celebrity can talk about their own profession and other areas of their life, they can also share their views about other things. During this time, they could talk about how society needs to change, or they could talk about something that is taking place in the mainstream media, for instance. Their views can then end up being heard by their fans, as well as by people who are not their fans. One reason for this is that the mainstream media gives a lot of attention to what celebrities have to say, and social media also gives them plenty of exposure. The Truth If one is obsessed with a celebrity, for instance, they can end up believing everything that they have to say. It is then not that they are sharing their own views; they are sharing the truth. And while this could be a sign that they are not very old, this might not be the case. They could be a fully grown adult and still believe everything that comes out of a celebrity’s mouth. The Same Experience However, one could still believe everything they hear even if they are not obsessed with them, and this shows the effect that celebrities have. What this comes down to is that even though they are simply human beings; they are often elevated to a godlike status. This is something that a lot of actor’s experience, and this is partly because they play roles where they are larger than life. Yet even though they are simply acting, people can come to believe that it is who they are. Superior Based on this, they are not human beings who make a living through imitating others; they are above everyone else. This is not to say that they aren’t talented; what is comes down to is that they are very often no different to anyone else. In most cases, what is different is that they are doing something that a lot of people value and as a result of this, it enables them to been seen in a certain way by the general public. So if an organisation or someone in power wanted to influence others, for instance, the best thing for them to do would be to get a celebrity to share their views as their own. The Difference If a politician was to say something, there is a strong chance that people would overlook what is being said, but when it comes to a celebrity, it can be a completely different story. For one thing, a lot of people don’t trust politicians, but the same can’t be said for celebrities. One way of seeing how crazy it is to believe that celebrities know everything would be to imagine a chef in the same position. On one hand, it could be said that they make great food, but on the other hand, one wouldn’t believe everything that comes out of their mouth. Critical Thinking What this shows is how important is it for one to question what they hear and not to believe something just because they heard from someone who is famous. This doesn’t necessarily mean that people who are famous are out to deceive others; what it can come down to is that they are not perfect.
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If one hadn’t learnt now to drive and they had to rely on someone else to drive them everywhere, their life is going to be a lot harder than it would be if they could drive. This is because they won’t be able to go out when they want; they will only be able to go out when the only person is willing to take them out.
There will then be moments when they are able to do what they want to do and moments when this is not the case. Having said that, if one had their own personal driver, they would be able to go out whenever they wanted to. Restricted But while this would be the ideal, it is not going to be an option for them, and this means that they are likely to feel restricted. And although they could be grateful that someone is there to help them; they could still experience a lot of frustration. It is not going to be possible for them to lead the kind of life they want, and this will stop them from being able to grow. As they won’t be able to go out when they want, it will stop them from being able to have certain experiences. Experiences On one hand, these could be experiences that they would have with their friends, and on the other hand, it can be what would take place at a social event or some kind of course. The kind of experiences they will miss out on will all depend on what their needs are. However, even though one’s life can be limited through relying on someone else to drive them everywhere; it is not the only way it can be limited. Another way that one can be held back is when they look to other people for approval. Approval Before they do anything, they will need other people to give them the all clear, so to speak. Once they can see that other people support their decision, they might be able to take action. In this case, they are not waiting for someone else to give them a lift someone else; but they are still waiting for them to give them a mental and emotional lift. Without their support, one won’t be able to take action, or if they do, they could do what they think other people want them to do. Focus Their point of focus is going to be on other people, and this could then mean that they are out of touch with their own needs and feelings. What this will show is that one’s primary concern is what other people think. If other people say good things about them, they could end up feeling good about themselves. But if this is not the case, their mental and emotional state could soon start to change. Walking On Egg Shells It will be necessary for them to monitor their own behaviour, as this will be the only way for them to make sure they don’t offend anyone. Another way of looking at this would be to say that they will be walking on egg shells. They may believe that as long as they don’t offend anyone, they won’t have to suffer. Yet through doing this, it is not going to be possible for one to express their true-self; therefore, their whole life could be an expression of their false-self. Feedback This doesn’t mean that someone else will realise what is taking place, as they could see them as being easy going. It is then not that they are out of touch with themselves; it is that they are happy to be there for others. At the same time, someone could say that they don’t stand up for themselves, and they may believe that they are too easy going. They may say that only way they will experience true fulfilment is if they stop caring about what other people think. Balance One way of looking at this would be to say that it is important to be open to feedback from others; but that doesn’t mean that one should let them define their life. One would also experiences problems if they were unable to listen to feedback from others. It could be said that the ideal will be for one to be able to live their life whilst being able to listen to what other people have to say. This feedback can then play an important part in their growth and development. Only Words If one was to talk to someone about what is taking place for them, they may be told that they don’t need to worry about what other people think. For one thing, they are only words and one can’t be hurt by them. Along with this, they could say that it is not as if they are being physically attacked, and what they say is only their opinion. One could then be told that they need to change what they believe and to think differently, for instance. Wide Open Still, even though they are only words, one could feel as though they go straight through them. As a result, one is not going to simply hear things; they will feel as though their very survival is at risk. What this will show is that they are boundaryless, and this means that they are wide open at an energetic level. Thus, it is not so much about what is taking place in their mind as it is about what is taking place in their body. A Deeper Look When one feels exposed in life, it can be due to what took place during their early years. This may have been a time when they were abused and/or neglected, and they may have had a caregiver that got too close to them. Through having these experiences, it wouldn’t have been possible for one to develop boundaries and to feel safe in their body. So whenever someone doesn’t show them approval, it will be interpreted as a threat to their existence. Awareness If this is something that one can relate to, it might be necessary for them to reach out for external assistance. This is something that can be provided by a therapist and/or a support group. During this time, one will be dealing with trauma and grieving unmet childhood needs.
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That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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