Critical Thinking: Is Celebrity Worship A Sign Of How Emotionally Undeveloped The Western World Is?16/2/2019
In just about every country in the western world, very few people class themselves as religious. At the same time, the people who are coming into this part of the world from Africa and the Middle East, for instance, are often religious.
Therefore, while religion is on its way out in this part of the world, this might not be the case as time goes by. Due to the low birth rates and the amount of children that these people often have, the western world could end up being extremely religious. The Same Dynamic But if with what may or might not happen in the future is put to one side, it wouldn’t be right to say that people in the western world no longer worship anyone or anything. If anything, this is something that still takes place. What is different, however, is that someone in the sky has been replaced by people who are actually walking the earth. In some cases, this will relate to a sports star and, in others, it will relate to an actor/actress or a singer. A Superior Being When one looks up to someone like this, they can end up seeing them as someone who is above them. This is not to say that they will say something like this in their mind as it is more likely to be something that they will express through their behaviour Each day of their life, they could spend a fair amount of time thinking about a celebrity and they could look through their social media page/s if there is one. This other person is then going to be a fellow human being, yet it will be as though they are from another planet. Fantasizing One could imagine what it would be like to know someone like this personally and how different their life would be if they did. Thus, while numerous people would like to be blessed by the pope, for instance, one would most likely like someone like this to bless them. One will see this person as having things that no other person has, which is why they are so special. And if one doesn’t feel this way about one person, there may be a number of people who they look up to. All in the Same Boat It won’t be hard for someone like this to find other people who also see certain celebrities in the same way. If a celebrity is on social media, there will be plenty of comments from other people who are just as enamoured with them. Still, while celebrity worship has replaced the old form of worship for a lot of people in the western world, these kinds of people rarely provide someone with a solid set of morals. In a lot of cases, these type of people promote the complete opposite; or they can merely parrot whatever ‘morals’ the establishment wants them to support, with can take place through endless virtue signalling. Back To Reality Nonetheless, just because one can perceive a celebrity as being more-than human, it doesn’t mean that there is any truth to this. Ultimately, the people who they look up to are inherently no different to them. Sure, they might be more physically attractive, have more money and be better at something than they are, but these are all surface level things. Deep down, one will be made of the same stuff and have the same amount of value. An Illusion The reason that they see this person as being superior to them is likely to be due to what they project onto them. This person is then just another human being, but thanks to the unrealised parts of themselves that they have unconsciously placed into them, it is not possible for them to realise this. For example, one can feel worthless and incapable, which can cause them to see someone like this as being extremely valuable and capable. If they were to no longer feel this way and were to embrace their own value and potential, they may no longer feel the need to place these people on a pedestal. Emotional Growth The reason one feels this way is likely to be the result of the inner wounds that they are carrying. Perhaps their early years were a time when they didn’t get the kind of care that they needed in order to develop in the right way. Once these inner wounds are healed and they are able to emotionally grow up, it will be possible for them to see these people are their fellow human beings. Now, this doesn’t mean that one will no longer appreciate what they do; what it is likely to mean is that they will no longer see them as godlike figures. An Overlooked Area If the education system provided emotional guidance and showed people what needed to be done to develop emotionally, perhaps one would have grown out of their desire to worship celebrities. But as it is generally the mind that is educated or indoctrinated even, it means that this part of one’s being is typically ignored. It is then going to be perfectly normal for one to be an emotionally undeveloped adult, who sees celebrities as possessing traits that they themselves don’t have. Greatness is then going to be something that is in other people but not in them. Conclusion It is highly unlikely that anyone on this planet is here to focus on how great other people are, while neglecting their own greatness. The sooner they spend less time focusing on celebrities and focus on their own strengths and do what they can to develop themselves, the sooner they will be able to live a life that is worth living as opposed to vicariously living through other people. Along with this, healing their own inner wounds will also allow them to become a more integrated human being. External support may be needed here to enable one to believe in themselves and to work through their inner wounds.
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In recent years, it has been said that men have become more feminine and women have become more masculine. Naturally, this is a generalisation and doesn’t apply to every man/woman in the western world.
And when something like this is said, it could simply be an observation that someone has made, or it could be something that they lament. One way of looking how men’s and women’s behaviour has changed would be to say that it is a good thing. Growth The reason for this is that women have started to embrace more of their masculine nature, after having rejected this side of them for a very long time; while men have started to embrace their feminine nature, after having rejected this side of them for a long time. Due to this, it could be said that both genders are gradually becoming more balanced. If both men and women were not made of the masculine and the feminine energy, this wouldn’t be possible. But as they are, it is perfectly normal for them to become more balanced human beings. A Key Point Still, this doesn’t mean that every human being on the planet is fifty percent feminine and fifty percent masculine. There are going to be both men and women who have more of one side than the other. What this then means is that there are going to be some men out there who are more feminine than masculine and some women who are more masculine than feminine. This is just how it is and is neither good nor bad. A Different Outlook Another view that could be put forward is that some men have gone too far and so have some women. A man will then have embraced more of his feminine nature, but he will have lost too much of his masculine nature. Likewise, a woman will then have embraced more of her masculine nature, but she will have lost too much of her feminine nature. It is then as if an extreme of the past has been replaced by another extreme in the present. A Lot of Exposure A fair amount has been said about men who are overly feminine, with the word ‘man up’ often being used and there being all kinds of books written for ‘nice guys’. A man who is easy going and doesn’t stand his ground is rarely respected by men or women. He can be seen as someone who lacks backbone and, therefore, needs to start asserting himself. There will be a lot of the feminine energy within him, but not a lot of the masculine energy. A Different Story When it comes to women who are overly masculine, it is less likely that anything will be said about how they come across. In the mainstream, the focus is generally on the issues that men have. In addition to some men being seen as too feminine, some men can also been seen as being too masculine. A man can then be seen as a problem no matter what pat of himself he embraces. Out of Balance A woman can then have the inclination to come across as aggressive, being completely out of touch with her more softer side, and it is unlikely that she would be told that she needs to ‘woman up’ or something similar. Still, while it can be normal for a woman to come across in this way, it is going to be the kind of behaviour that repels a lot of people. Women who are in touch with their feminine nature will probably find her energy toxic, and men who are in touch with their masculine nature could also feel the need to keep their distance. Conflict A man like this will realise that a woman like this is not going to complement who he is; the only thing that would happen is he would have some someone in his life who he would be in a constant battle with. As the woman has more or less rejected her feminine nature, it wouldn’t be possible for their two energies to harmonise with each other. It would be like trying to lead someone in a dance routine, only for them to try to lead all the time; it just wouldn’t work. The woman is not going to want to surrender to a man and to allow him to lead; she will want to control the man and to direct everything. What’s going on? So, if a woman has pretty much lost touch with her nurturing ability, softness and supportive element, amongst other things, it is likely to show that she doesn’t feel safe enough to express these traits and to be vulnerable. The way she comes across, with her aggression and coldness, for instance, is then a way for her to protect herself. Ultimately, in order for a woman to embrace her femininity and then to express this side of her nature, she needs to feel safe enough to do so. The question is: why wouldn’t a woman feel safe enough to express this side of her nature? Way Back What this may show is that she was brought up in an environment where it wasn’t safe for her to just be and to express her softer side. Perhaps, her father wasn’t around or if he was around, he may have abused her. The outcome of this is that the strong male figure that she needed to protect her and to validate her femininity wouldn’t have been available. Thus, as a way to protect her vulnerability, she would have disconnected from this part of her nature and developed a hard shell in the process. Repetition Compulsion The trouble is that as she is still carrying all this pain within her, she will most likely continue to recreate experiences that will have a lot in common with what took place during her early years. These experiences will validate her belief that it is not safe for her to be vulnerable and to trust others. It is unlikely to be very fulfilling for her to live life in this way, but this is likely to be what is familiar, and what is familiar is what is classed as what is safe to the ego mind. Her life is only likely to change if she heals her inner wounds. Awareness If a woman can relate to this, and she wants to change her life, she may need to reach out for external support. This can take place with the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
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In a number of countries around the world there are media channels that are often seen as being purveyors of the truth, while there are other media channels that are often seen as being peddlers of lies. Consequently someone can pay attention to certain sources and believe that they are being exposed to the truth.
So, unlike the people who pay attention to other sources, they will be an informed human being. These people could be seen as ignorant human beings, and they may even be labelled in some way. A Big Difference One is then not going to allow their mind to be clouded by ignorance and the sources that they look towards will challenge any prejudices they may have. On the other hand, they will believe that the other sources play into people’s fears and biases. Therefore, one will believe that they are receiving information that is superior, and they may even see themselves as being morally superior. Due to this, it might be hard for them to interact with people who don’t consume the same sources as they do. Tension If one does label these people as having some kind of phobia and/or uses words that end with ‘ist’ to describe them, they might not even seen them as their fellow human beings. Through dehumanizing them, they could see them as being less-than human. They might not see someone like this as a sinner, but they may believe that they need to be reformed. It may seem as though someone like this needs to be sent on a sensitivity training course, for example. The Reliable Sources When it comes to the media channels that they pay attention to, it can all depend on where in the world they are based. If they are in the United Kingdom, for instance, they might typically read the paper that rhymes with ricardian and watch the channel the starts off with the second letter of the alphabet. These two sources will keep them informed about what is actually going on. The former will also provide them with well-thought-out ‘opinion’ pieces and, as the latter is funded by the tax payer, its sole purpose will be to serve people. An Analogy One way of looking at the difference between the ‘liberal media’ and the ‘gutter press’ would be to say that this dynamic is a bit like the difference between president Obama and president Trump. Obama is a decent human being, who did the right thing, while Trump isn’t and is not doing the right thing. Interestingly, just as is often the case with the liberal media, Obama also represented the left when he was in power; whereas the gutter press usually represents the right, with this being the side that Trump represents. It could then be said that the left side of the political spectrum is good, whilst the right side is bad. One Big Facade Another way of looking at these two media channels would be to say that while it is easy to see that the gutter press has certain biases, it is a lot harder to see that the liberal media also does. And, because of how well the liberal media has promoted itself over the years, it has meant that it has been able to deceive a lot of people. The president Obama/Trump analogy is relevant once again as even though one of them is typically seen as being good and the other is seen as bad; it is not this black and white. One of the big differences between these two people is that one came across well and the other doesn’t. Looking Beyond the Facade Yet, if someone only paid attention to how president Obama came across, they may have believed that he was all good. Similarly, if someone only pays attention to how president Trump comes across, it can be normal for them to believe that he is all bad. When it comes to the liberal press it is like Obama, inasmuch as it often comes across very well. The gutter press is a bit like trump, on the other hand, as it typically comes across as unrefined and uncivilised. The Power of Conditioning If someone was brought up in the United Kingdom, they may believe that the organisation that starts off with the second letter of the alphabet is the bastian of truth. This source will be seen as having one purpose – to keep them informed. From the moment they were born, then, it will have been drummed into their head that this source was on their side. Thanks to this, there will be no reason for them to question what this source comes out with. The Ideal Scenario Naturally, it is going to be a lot easier to control someone if they are not aware of what is taking place. This approach is similar to putting poison in a tasty cake; it will be easy to get someone to eat it. Ultimately, the last thing that any of these media organisations want is for someone to be able to think critically and to question what they are told. The misplaced trust that they have in these originations will make them easy targets. Conclusion The gutter press, like president Trump, typically reveal what they stand for; yet the liberal media, like president Obama, are generally more deceitful. Both of these sources decide what the public become aware of, and, as a result of this, they define how they see the world. When someone pays attention to the media, and regardless of whether they are aware of it or not, this source will literally be programming their reality. It won’t be possible for them to realise this if they see themselves as merely observers of their reality, though, yet this will be nothing more than an illusion.
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When someone can express who they are their life is going to be far more fulfilling than it would be if this wasn't the case. Here, one will be able to listen to themselves and they will be able to allow what is going on within them to come out.
This will enable them to authentically connect to others, which will make it possible for them to experience real intimacy. Their relationships are then not going to be shallow; they will be full of depth. The Odd Occasion Still, this doesn’t mean that they will always express themselves, with their being moments when they will see that it is not a good idea for them to do so. During a time like this, they might see that it is better for them to keep certain things to themselves. For example, one may have tried to get through to someone in the past, only to see that it is not possible. Consequently, they will be more selective when it comes to what they say to this person and they may even do what they can to limit the amount of time that they spend around them. Getting Away This doesn’t mean, however, that one won’t feel comfortable around this person; it is a more a case of them not wanting to deal with unnecessary dramas. Thus, while they could be more open with this person, doing so won’t solve anything. If they were to end up in the company of someone who was emotionally unstable let’s say, they could soon feel the urge to leave. It will then be clear that spending time with someone who wants them to be constantly on edge is not going to interest them. At The Root Being around someone like this is then going to cause them to feel uncomfortable; it could be as if a warning sign has been put up in front of them. In addition to feeling uncomfortable, they will have the drive to get away. What this will show is that their body is responding in the right way and that they value themselves enough to do what is best for their wellbeing. Behaving in this way will undoubtedly save them a lot of trouble. Expansion When one is around their friends and even their partner if they have one, they will be able to relax and to expand. One will then be able to reveal their true-self and they will be able to grow in their company. Ultimately, one will be free to be, and it could be said that this is the best way to experience life. To experience life in any other way is simply going to cause one to limit who they are and it will stop them from being able to evolve. Another Reality Experiencing life in this will be the norm for some people, while for others; it won’t even cross their mind. When it comes to someone like this, their life is going to be totally different. They are then going to live on the same planet as someone who experiences life differently, yet it could be as if they live on another one. What this likely to mean is that they have a number of people in their life who are emotionally unpredictable. Treading Carefully When one is around someone like this, their focus is likely to be on what is taking place externally. Instead of their attention being divided between their inner and outer world, then, it will be in one place. This is going to be a time when they won’t be expressing who they are; they will be making sure that they don’t say or do anything that might result in the other person losing it. What is going on in their body during this time can end up being a mystery. One Purpose Their own needs will be put to one side and their priority will be to do what they can to meet the other persons needs. The outcome of this is that their true-self is not going to see the light of day, with them playing a role instead. Clearly, spending time around people like this is not going to allow them to expand or to grow; it will simply cause them to retract. But, while cutting their ties with these people might be the best thing for them to do, this might not even occur to them. A Closer Look On one level, being around these people is going to undermine them and it make their life a misery and, on another level, it could be what feels comfortable. As a result of this, there will be no reason for them to get away from these people. The reason this feels comfortable can be due to what took place during the beginning of their life. At this stage of their life, they may have had at least one caregiver who was extremely emotionally volatile. An Unpredictable Environment One wouldn’t have been brought up in a war zone, but it could have been as if there was a war going on in their home. For no apparent reason, this caregiver could have lost it, and this may have meant that they were physically and/or verbally abused on a daily basis. This would have been incredibly traumatising for an adult, let alone a child; the big difference is that as they were a child, it wouldn’t have been possible for them to do anything about it. Being hypervigilant and in survival mode would have been a way for them to try to prevent the unpreventable – their caregiver’s outbursts. The Fall Out What should have been a time in their life when they were able to develop a strong connection with themselves and to feel safe in their body, ended up bring a time when they lost touch with their inner world and felt as though it wasn’t safe for them to exist. These experiences would have had an effect on their mind and body. At this age, one would have needed this person to help them to regulate their inner world, not for them to try to regulate an adult’s inner world. It is then not going to be a surprise if one is unable to handle their own emotions as an adult. Awareness It is highly unlikely that the behavioural therapy approach would work here; one will most likely need to work through the trauma that is within them. This is something that can take place with the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
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From the outside, it can seem as though certain celebrities have it all. This is because the average celebrity can be talented, good looking, have plenty of money and millions of people all over the world can admire them.
And when it comes to a celebrity like this, one can believe that they just happened to get lucky and to hit the big time. That is, of course, unless one believes that someone like this is ‘special’. In Control Yet, regardless of whether one believes that someone like this is lucky or special, they can see them as being in charge of their life. Unlike the average person who has a boss who tells them what to do, they will be the master of their own destiny. This can be seen as something that takes place as a result of them having so much money and power. Therefore, if they don’t want to do something, they won’t do it, and, if they are not given this option, they will be able to walk away. The Only Downside Nonetheless, what could cross their mind is that even though they have so much going for them, what they can’t avoid is getting older. In additional to this, one could be only too aware that they will still experience loss. So, as much as their life will be radically different to the average person’s life, there will be a number of things that will be the same. Ultimately, no matter how much money they have, they won’t be able to have complete control over what happens to them. Extreme Pressure One thing that someone like this can experience is a strong need to not only look good, but to also look young. The big trouble with this is that their appearance will change as time goes by, meaning that it is impossible for them to look young forever. Even so, this is not to say that they won’t try to delay the inevitable by having surgery or inserting chemicals into their skin. There will come a point, however, when this approach will no longer cut it. A Heavy Burden Getting older can be something that will cause them to worry about whether or not their fans will lose interest in them and they can fear that someone younger will take their place. Due to how much pressure they experience, it can be hard for them to enjoy what they have. There may even be moments in their life when think about how they would trade it all in for a normal life; a life where they don’t experience so much pressure or need to maintain a certain appearance. At times, then, they could feel as though their level of success has imprisoned them. Strongly Attached But, thanks to how long they have experienced life in this way, there is the chance that they wouldn’t know who they were unless they were famous. Not being famous would then be experienced as a loss and it would be as if they had died. Being a world famous celebrity is then not free from challenges; in fact, it can be a very empty existence. What can also cross their mind is that other people only like them based on the idea that they have formed of them, not on what they are actually like as a person. Another Side Having said this, a celebrity might not actually have as much power as they appear to have. The reason for this is that there can be people above them who have far more power than they do. Thus, while it can seem as though a celebrity is their own boss, they can simply be an employee. Compared to the average person they can appear to be at the top, but in reality, they can still be well below the people who exercise a lot of influence over the planet. Two Jobs That’s not to say that these people actually have all the power; it’s just that so many people are kept in ignorance. These people have all kinds of ways to keep the masses distracted and oblivious to what is going on behind the scenes. A celebrity can then spend a lot of their life singing or acting, for instance, and they can be told that there are other things they will need to do. What this could mean is that they will have to go along with whatever narrative the establishment wants them to promote. An Important Role The work that someone does as an actor or a singer could be just a way for them to pull people in. After all, if it wasn’t for the fact that they looked good and had a talent, there is a strong chance that very few people would pay attention to them. In order for them to have as much influence as they do, it would have been necessary to build them into a godlike figure. It would have been clear that once this had taken place, millions of people would happily go along with what they say, irrespective of how crazy or irrational it was. Selling Out Right from the beginning, someone may have been told that the only way they would make it was if they were willing to lose themselves to gain the world. Behaving in ways that are in alignment with what other people want may have meant that they have lost touch with their true essence. Their need to maintain their status could be all consuming, which could mean that they are not even aware of how this is causing them to compromise who they are. Then again, they could be only to aware of what would happen if they were to exert their own will. Conclusion It has been said that things are not always as they seem, and this could be an appropriate saying when it comes to certain celebrities. These people are simply human beings; they are not gods or goddesses. To place someone like this at this level doesn’t make any sense. The only way it can make sense is if someone is projecting a lot of things onto these people and is unable to see them as just human beings.
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For whatever reason, one may have just broken up with their partner, which could mean that they are not in a good way. Perhaps one is experiencing a fair amount of sadness, along with feeling depressed from time to time.
There could also be moments when one ends up getting angry and is even consumed by rage. Either way, it is going to be a challenge for them to experience inner peace at this point in their life. A Different Outcome Alternatively, one could be relieved that their relationship has come to and this can mean that they don’t have trouble embracing the present moment. This doesn’t mean that they won’t ever feel sad, though. The big difference is that what has taken place won’t have had a big impact on their inner world. This can then allow one to make a fairly smooth transition from one stage of their life to another. The Reason What this can show is that this person was not in a relationship that was very fulfilling. One would have come to see that their time together had come to an end and this will make it easier for them to put this phase of their life behind them. If one was in a relationship that wasn’t very fulfilling yet they are not in a good way, it can be a sign that something else is going on for them. Perhaps they were carrying a lot of emotional pain before they got into this relationship and therefore, the end of the relationship has brought it up to the surface. Another Scenario Then again, if one does feel fine but their relationship was going well, it could show that one has disconnected from their pain. One can then believe that they are fine, as can the people in their life, yet this will be an illusion. And, if ones relationship was going well and they are in a lot of pain, what they are going though will be perfectly normal. They will have experienced loss and this will have caused them to experience grief. A Process It is unlikely that they will be able to think their way out of what is going on; what they will most likely need to do is to feel their way out. This is then going to be a time when they will be surrendering to how they feel as opposed to trying to change how they feel. Embracing how they feel, and allowing themselves to cry out the pain that is within them, will almost certainly help. If they are a woman it might be easier for them to do this than if they are man, due to the fact that is often more acceptable for a woman to express her emotions. An Interruption No matter what one is going through at this time in their life, they might end up hearing from their ex. This could be a time when their ex will basically ask them if they would like to get back together. Conversely, a mutual friend could end up asking them if they would get back with their ex, after their ex has asked them to find out. This could be the last thing that they wanted to hear or it could be something that they are only too happy to hear. The Next Step If one is not interested in getting back with their ex, it may be easy for them to make this clear and for their ex to get this message. Their ex will then leave them alone if they respect them and have good boundaries. At the same time, after having been asked this, one could end up feeling confused, not knowing what to do. What this is then likely to show is that they are experiencing inner conflict. Self-Reflection One thing that they can then do is to think about what their relationship was like before and if they want to experience more of the same. If they were in an abusive relationship or even one had had run its course, there is going to be no reason for them to restart the relationship. If it was going well or there was only a minor problem, then it might be a good idea for them to get back with their ex. Along with thinking about what their relationship was like, it will be important for them to tune into themselves. Self-Awareness By tuning into what is taking place within them, they will be able to see what parts of them want to go back and what parts don’t. If they find that there is a strong pull in their chest to go back with them, it could show that they feel abandoned. In this case, their need to get back with their ex can be more about avoiding how they feel than being with someone who they truly want to be with. Being with their ex can then allow them to feel better in the short-term but it wont serve them in the long-term. Awareness What this illustrates of how important self-awareness is when it comes to making a good decision. Without this, someone can end up making a decision that they will end up regretting. If one can see that they are in a lot of pain and it is not possible for them to handle this pain, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
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It could be said that there have more or less always been people who are famous for one thing or another, but what is different about today’s world, is that it is easier than ever before for someone to achieve this aim. There are two main reasons for this, with the first being reality TV and the second being the internet.
Thanks to former, someone can end up become famous practically overnight, and this can take place even if they have very little, if any, talent. When it comes to the latter, the same thing can occur without too much time passing and without one needing to have any kind of talent. A Life Goal One outcome of this is that so many people now see fame as the ultimate achievement, something that is far superior to anything else that can be attained. What this shows is how fame has saturated the western world. For someone like this, fame is not going to be a something that is simply a by-product of doing something else; it will be something that is pursued directly. As a result of this, they might not care what they do as long as this takes place. Another Part If someone experiences life in this way, it is also likely to mean that they look up to certain celebrities. Then again, they could admire just about anyone who is famous, due to the fact that this person will have attained something that they themselves desire. When it comes to the celebrities that they follow, then, these could be actors and/or singers, or they could be famous for other things. If they don’t care about what someone does, the mere fact that another person is famous could be enough to pull them in. A Big Shift Someone like this is then not going to be interested in what they can do to make the world a better place; they will only be interested in doing what they can to be known by as many people as possible. Its then as if one sees themselves as being separate for everything else as opposed to being part of it. One is then on this planet but there is no need for them to make a contribution to the planet while they are here. The only thing that they need to do is to receive attention from others and that will be enough. Undeveloped One way of looking at this would be to say that the only reason someone would want to be famous is because their needs were not met during early years. Consequently, one is likely to feel insignificant, worthless and invisible, amongst other things. Being famous is then going to be a way for them to recreate their early years; only this time, they will be able to get what they didn’t get all those years ago. The trouble is that they are likely to be carrying trauma, which will stop them from being able to internalise positive feedback from others. A Futile Pursuit It will be a bit like trying to permanently mark a window by using milk, it will just wash off. No matter how much positive feedback they receive from other people, it won’t have a lasting effect. What someone like this really needs to do is to heal their inner wounds as this will gradually allow them to feel whole and complete. Through doing this they will no longer feel the same way and this will mean that they will no longer have the same needs. Self-Acknowledgment By no longer feeling so empty on the inside, they will no longer need the approval from random strangers to feel whole. The fullness that they feel within themselves will also most likely allow them to focus more on what they can give to the world, than on what they can get from it. Taking this into account, it shows how important early care is when it comes to having a functional society. What someone doesn’t receive during this stage of their life can be what they will look for as an adult, with this typically being something that takes place unconsciously. Another Scenario If one is more interested is following different celebrities than they are with being famous, it can show that they live their life through these people. By identifying with them, it is going to have a positive effect on how they feel and see themselves. And, although these people will be their fellow human beings, it can be as though these people are above them. Said another way, these people can be like gods and goddesses. Projection What this can show is that deep down, one feels worthless and this has then caused them to see these people as being perfect. Indentifying with what they have projected into these people will be a way for them to avoid their true feelings. If they were to detach themselves from them, they might soon end up coming into contact with how they really feel. Thus, being obsessed with different celebrities will be way for them to avoid themselves. Conclusion One way to look at the obsession that so many people have when it comes to celebrities would be to say that this shows that there are a lot of people who feel worthless or as though they are nothing. If these people were to work through their own wounds and were gradually able to embrace their own worth in the process, there would be no reason for them to put their fellow human beings on a pedestal. Focusing on their own life and doing what they could to achieve their own goals would be far more important. Not only would this allow them to lead a more fulfilling existence, it would also most likely allow them to make a positive contribution to the world.
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There are behaviours that are seen as good and behaviours that are seen as bad, and what usually defines whether a behaviour fits into the first or the second category is the context. For example, aggression can create a problem in one situation but it can prevent a problem in another.
When it comes to the former, one could use their aggression to cause harm, and, when it comes to the latter, they could use it to protect themselves and their loved ones. In this regard, aggression is neutral. One More Another example is putting other people first, with this being good in some situations but not in others. If one had a small child, it would be a good idea for them to feed the child first and then to feed themselves. However, if one was in a plane and there was an emergency, it would be essential for them to take care of themselves first. Once their oxygen mask is on, they will be able to put the mask on their child; if they do the opposite, their life might end before they are able to put an oxygen mask on their child. A Common Outlook However, in the same way that aggression as a whole is often vilified in today’s world, so is putting ones need first. It is as if the moral thing to do is to put other people’s needs first, no matter what. If, then, one puts their needs first, they are going to be someone who is a selfish human being. It then won’t matter if the put other peoples needs first from time to time, as this won’t make up for the times when they don’t. A Model Human Being Someone who disregards their own needs and focuses purely on other people’s needs is then going to be behaving in the right way. When one behaves in this way, it can be normal for them to receive positive feedback from others. Other people could see them as someone who is only too happy to extend themselves and to do just about anything they can to help. This could mean that one works in the helping profession. Always On Call When they are at work they will be there to fulfil other people needs and once they have finished work, they will still have the same focus. If they are in a relationship, they could also focus on their partners needs. Yet, even though one will generally ignore their own needs, they could still spend a lot of time with a smile on their face. From the outside, it can seem as though this person is living the good life. Self-Neglect Nonetheless, while behaving in this way can be seen as the ideal, the fact is that one is going to be neglecting themselves. This doesn’t mean that one will be aware of this, though, as this behaving in this way could be something that just happens. If any anger or frustration is able to break tough into their conscious awareness, they could soon end up disconnecting from it. Their emotional self will be trying to communicate with them, but they won’t pay attention to this information. Out of Balance Ultimately, one is a human being and this means that they have their own needs. Therefore, just because putting other people first is seen as the right thing to do, it doesn’t mean that this is actually the case. Naturally, it is good to be able to do this, but it is not good when one doesn’t have the ability to put their own needs first. What this can illustrate is that not only is one out of touch with their own needs, but that they believe their needs are not important. A False-Self Coming across as selfless or needless is likely to be what feels safe, with this being a way for them to be accepted by others. There is a strong chance that one’s early years played a part in how they behave as an adult. During this stage of their life, they may have been brought up by caregivers who saw them as an extension of themselves. Instead of fulfilling ones needs, they would have used them to fulfil their own needs. The Outcome One would then have learnt how to be there for others but what they wouldn’t have learnt is how to be there for themselves. This would have caused them to believe that other people’s needs are more important than their own. Along with disconnecting from their own needs in order to survive, they would have also come to feel ashamed of their own needs. Hiding their needs from others, and themselves as time went by, would have been a way for them to try to make sure that they were not rejected or abandoned. The Same Scenario The years will have passed since this time in their life but they will still be behaving in the same way. The only difference is that they will be older and the people they are trying to please won’t be their caregivers. One may find that a lot of the people in their life are not even interested in their needs, with these people seeing one as an extension of themselves. Until one draws the line and is no longer willing to neglect themselves, this is unlikely to change. Awareness The truth is that one’s needs are just as important as anyone else’s needs and this is why there is no reason for them to neglect themselves. When one is no longer willing to experience life in this way their life can begin to change. If one is at this point, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
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It can be normal for one to assume that the government is there to make their life easier. Whether it relates to their own safety, happiness or health, this entity is there to make sure that they are looked after.
Thus, even if one is not religious, they will have something out there that is watching over them, so to speak. As a result of this, one may find that it is easier for them to settle down and to get on with their own life. One Part If one is no longer in the education system, they could look back on this time in their life with great pleasure. This will then have been a time when they were given the tools that they needed to handle the world as an adult. There may have been parts that they didn’t like, but overall, it would have been a valuable experience. They may believe that their life would be radically different if it wasn’t for this education. Another Part What could also come to mind is what the police, army and intelligence services do to combat crime and terrorism. These different agencies are then going to be doing their best to keep them, and their loved ones, safe from harm. There will be what they deal with in their country and in other countries around the world. But regardless of what country these organisations are operating in, the purpose will be the same – to look after them and their fellow citizens. A Priority And, due to the amount of terrorist attacks that have taken place in recent years, one could believe that these types of people are more important than ever before. It could seem as though there are more threats out there than ever before, which is why more protection than ever before is needed. One may be only too happy for their way of life to change if it means that they will be safer. More cameras, laws and rules, yet less privacy and freedom are then going to be something that is perfectly acceptable. A Mad World If one was asked to share their thoughts on terrorism, they could say that the people who are involved are animals who want to cause harm. For no reason, then, they will want to cause chaos and destruction. As far as they are concerned, the sooner these people are dealt with the better it will be for anyone who values life. These perpetrators will need to be dealt with, so that they can no longer victimise others. Two Levels In the same way that a business can have two purposes, with their being the official purpose and the unofficial purpose, a government can also be the same. When it comes to a business, the official purpose can be to sell food and the unofficial purpose can be to launder money. On the other hand, when it comes to a government, the official purpose can be to look after its citizens, while the unofficial purpose can be to control them. Therefore, just like a normal business, it can appear to be legitimate, but this is nothing more than a facade. The Perfect Disguise There are a number of reasons as to why this entity has been able to maintain this illusion for so long. Firstly, there is how it presents itself, secondly, there is the conditioning that the citizenry receive during their time in the education system and, thirdly, there is the part that the mainstream media play. When it comes to the first point, the people who represent the government are often very good at coming across as decent human beings. These people often speak and dress well, for instance. The Other Points As for the second point, the education system teaches people what to think, not how to think. What this then does is defines how so many people see the world, taking away their ability to think critically and to see through this illusion. The mainstream media is then there to make sure that populace don’t wake up and continue to see the world in a certain way. In other words, the education system gets the ball moving, but the mainstream media keep it going. In A Trance Someone’s mind is then programmed from day one and this programming ends up defining what they can or can’t see. And, if someone points out that what they believe has very little basis in reality, it can be as though they are saying that grass is red. The person who points this out is then the mad one or the conspiracy nut that should be in some kind of mental institution. Unlike this person, one will be in the know and have their feet planted firmly on the ground. Reading between the Lines So, what is rarely spoken about is how the government actually puts its citizen’s safety and security at risk. One of the ways that this takes place by attacking countries that are not a threat, which gives people from these countries the desire to seek revenge. Now, the government and their mouth piece, the mainstream media, may come up with reasons why a country needs to be attacked, but the reasons put forward are almost always lies. Ultimately, this entity will do anything to achieve its aims, and lying to the citizenry is just a means to an end. Out of Balance It has been said that the government should be scared of the people, not the other way around. The trouble is that in many countries around the world, it is often the other way around. This entities priority is then to do whatever it can to keep the citizenry weak, fearful and dependent, even though it creates the impression that it is there to help people. Keeping people in this state is the perfect way to control them and to make sure that they don’t get in the way of their plans Conclusion In recent years, the divide and rule tactic has been heavily applied, with the establishment doing just about everything they can do create tension between men and women and different races. One way to look at this would be to imagine that the government is like a hand that continually shakes a snow globe, making sure that the globe is never settled. Keeping people in a constant state of angst keeps them in fear and stops them from being able to think clearly or putting up any resistance. On the plus side, more and more people are becoming aware of what is going on.
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In the western world, it has become a challenge for people to speak their mind online or offline. If they do this, they can end up getting into trouble, with what they come out with being seen as ‘hate speech’ for example.
Or to be more precise, it has become a challenge for people to speak their mind if what they have to say goes against what is seen as acceptable. Therefore, as long as they only come out with things that are accepted, they will have the ‘freedom’ to express themselves. An Analogy This is then similar to how people in prison will have the freedom to walk around a certain area. In this area, they will be able to move their body freely and to go wherever they want to go. Clearly, these people in prison are not free; if they were free, they would be able to walk in other areas. Likewise, people in society are not really free to express their views; if they were, they would be able to do so without getting into trouble. Go Along To Get Along While there will be people to openly talk about what is going on and even risk their livelihood by saying things that are not part of the accepted narrative (wrongthink), there will be plenty of others who will simply accept what is going on and keep their head down. When this takes place, it can be due to at least two reasons. Someone like this could believe that they have too much to lose by sticking their head above the parapet, even though they are not on board with it. What could also add to this is that they may work for the government, giving them an even greater need to toe the line. Another Reason Alternatively, one might not even question what is going on, being only too happy to go along with it. What this could illustrate is that they feel comfortable with following rules and doing as they are told. It is then going to be normal for them to listen to authority figures and to see these types of people as being all knowing. Going along with what they say will be what matters, not thinking for themselves and coming to their own conclusions. A Strong Need So, whether it relates to being told what they can say or anything else for that matter, they will willingly oblige. One is then going to look like an adult, but they will be acting more like a dependent child. In the same way that a dependent child will need to be accepted in order to survive, they will need to be accepted in order to make sure that they are not excluded by others. Yet, while a child won’t have the ability to think critically, they simply won’t have the desire to think critically. Getting Involved What could also take place is that one could end up trying to keep the people who don’t go along with the accepted narrative in line. This probably won’t be because they have thought through what they stand for and are fully on board with it, it will most likely be a consequence of their need to belong. Behaving in this way can be a way for them to prove how committed they are to the cause, strengthening their ties to their tribe. One can then live part of their life as a sheep and part of it as a sheep dog that is there to try to round up the malcontents. The Foundations It would be easy to believe that someone was just born this way, with them having DNA that makes them submissive and renders their critical faculties useless in the face of authority. However, what this can show is that their childhood years set them up to feel comfortable with this type of behaviour. At this stage of their life, they may have been brought up by at least one parent who acted like a tyrant. One would then have had to do whatever this person said, not being able to express themselves freely. An Extremely Oppressive Environment There would then have been things that they could do and say, and things that they couldn’t do and say. During these years, it may have felt as though they were constantly walking around on eggshells. Thus, instead of them being able to form a strong connection to themselves and to gradually develop a strong sense of self; they would have lost touch with themselves, remained undeveloped and formed a false-self that would have allowed them survive. Their aggression, the part of them that would have allowed them to break away and to become an individual, will then have been split-off. Crushed Ultimately, this parent would have broken their will, setting them up to be a submissive and fearful being in the process. The trauma that they experienced at the hands of this parent may stop them from ever stepping out of line. This parent would have also given them all the training that they needed to act like a tyrant themselves; that is, of course, if they allow this to happen. If they do, trying to control others can be an indirect way for them to get revenge. Awareness It can be hard to understand why someone would treat others in the same way that they were treated, especially as it caused them so much pain. Due to the effect an experience like this can have on someone’s whole being, they can end up being possessed by their pain. What they went through will have made it hard for their brain to function in the right way and for them to experience self-awareness. The outcome is that the person who was abused ends up becoming the person who abuses. As for someone whose will has been broken as a result living in a very oppressive environment as a child, it could take a lot of healing until they are able to become an integrated human being. With the assistance of a therapist or a healer, for instance, it can happen.
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